There will always be ups and downs. Life tends to throw things our way that take us off course or puts us in a dark place for a period of time.

Everyone experiences difficulties.

No one is exempt.

And it’s not always because you are doing something wrong. However, there are some ways of being that will keep you unhappy if you don’t work to fix them.

The good news is they are very fixable. The problem is just figuring out what is really making us unhappy. Because, it is too easy to blame it on the wrong thing.

As the old saying goes: ‘You’re not unhappy for the reasons you think.’

So, without further ado, let’s take a look at 7 reasons why you might not be happy as an Empath:

1. FEELING LIKE YOU DON’T FIT IN

There is a saying that if you feel like you don’t fit into this world it’s because you are here to create a new one. Which I think is very fitting for the Empaths of the world.

Being an Empath often means you feel different. Because you are different, in many ways. But that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

It is difficult for anyone who has a gentle spirit to fit into a system like the one we live in, and indeed around people who are committed to misunderstanding you.

But remember, you don’t have to hide who you are or pretend to be someone else in order to fit in. When you are yourself, the right people will love and respect you.

2. A LACK OF GRATITUDE

It is not easy to feel grateful, when there are many reasons to feel unhappy. But, when you feel resentful or unhappy about a situation, or for anything you currently have in your life, you attract back more of the same.

Having gratitude really does change the way you live. When you look for reasons to be thankful you will always find them. As Rhonda Byrne would say: ‘There is always always always something to be grateful for’.

Be grateful for everything that matters in your life and don’t focus on what doesn’t. Remember, where focus goes energy flows.

3. AN UNHEALTHY DIET AND LIFESTYLE

Your diet and lifestyle impact your happiness more than you may know. Anyone who is Sensitive tends to be sensitive to many things in this modern world, and that includes chemicals in the environment, stress and certain proteins in food.

Basically, Empaths get sick sooner than those who don’t feel everything so powerfully and they often feel greater levels of melancholy. Because of this, Empaths have to be extra vigilant with their diets, supplements and lifestyle. Having seen first-hand how diet and lifestyle can negatively impact Empath traits, I know exactly how important this is for Empath happiness. I discuss this subject in 7 Secrets of the Sensitive. Addressing what you eat, as well as getting in some endorphin-boosting exercise, can have a major impact on increasing your levels of happiness.

4. HOLDING A GRUDGE

One of the biggest factors that will keep you unhappy in life is holding a grudge.

If someone has hurt you, the worst thing you can do is carry a grudge around with you. All that is doing is keeping the pain alive within.

As hard as it is to do, if anyone has betrayed you or let you down, let it go. Don’t put energy into it. Otherwise, you will continue to recycle the experience, which only allows for more resentments to grow.

Closure comes from within. You have the power to give yourself the peace you deserve by letting go of everything that steals your inner harmony.

5. EXTERNAL EMOTIONS

As you know, being an Empath means not only do you experience your own emotions, you can lift and take on the emotions from the people you surround yourself with. This can become a problem for creating stress and unhappiness. When you take on too many stressed emotions from others, as well as having your own to deal with, it becomes a huge burden to live with. This is a reason many Empaths are unhappy.

There are several reasons why an Empath will take on too many external emotions, which I have written about here, here, here and here.

The good news is, once you are aware of whose emotion belongs to whom, you can work to either block or diffuse these emotions. My book 7 Secrets of the Sensitive also discusses ways to prevent other people’s emotions from bringing you down. I will link to it in the show notes.

6. STAYING IN VICTIM MODE

Sadly, when you feel like a victim you end up living like a victim, and you will be unhappy. Which inevitably means, you attract back more situations to match this victim vibration.

Everyone has issues from their past that causes them pain in the present. But constantly keeping your mind focused on past injustices, and overthinking them, only serves in keeping you trapped in unnecessary mental strife.

Instead of focusing on your vulnerabilities, or past injustices, keep your mind on all your positive attributes. See yourself as a warrior, and most of all trust in yourself. The more you think this way, the happier you will feel.

7. PEOPLE WHO POISON YOUR SOUL

You deserve to be happy. You don’t deserve to be around people who drain your energy and poison your soul. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice your peace and happiness just to give others what they want, especially when they are not willing to look out for your needs in return. If spending time with someone is making you unhappy, or if they repeatedly bring you down, they are harming your health. And it is up to you to either break the connection or confront the situation.

We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves.

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So, there you go. If you are an Empath, chances are you have worked hard to find your happiness. Trust in the progress you’ve made. Every step you take to transform your life is a step in the right direction. As I said, we all have difficult times to endure in life, no one is exempt, but know that they will pass.

And finally, remember this: You matter. You are special and loved, even when your thoughts tell you otherwise. You deserve happiness and you can have it.

I hope this helps you on your Empath journey. If you want to learn more about Empath life, then please like and subscribe.

If you want to learn more about my book, 7 Secrets of the Sensitive, Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power, has lots of information about finding happiness and health as an Empath

Until next time.