Does People Intolerance Really Exist? (Spoiler: Yes!)

Apologies for not posting since early May. I’ve been crazy busy will a gazillion different things (still am).

I started this post two months ago, and I’ve only just got around to its completion. And I have to be honest, I have used AI for the edit.

Anyone who blogs will know, it’s not always the article writing that takes the time, it’s the editing. But just so you know, the words are still from me.

So, here we go…

Does people intolerance really exist?

This isn’t about disliking someone because of their attitude or personality. It’s not even necessarily about the other person at all; it’s about how our energy reacts to their energy. And that reaction? Well, it can feel like emotional whiplash.

What Is People Intolerance, Really?

The best way I can describe it is this: it’s a bit like a food intolerance.

Some foods that are healthy on paper—fruits, vegetables, nuts, etc. But for some of us, they just don’t sit right. It’s often the histamines, oxalates, or lectins. Either way, the reaction can range from brain fog and tiredness to irritability or even mild anxiety.

And people can affect us in a similar way.

You spend time with someone: maybe a co-worker, a relative, or even a friend you like, and afterwards, you feel completely wiped out. Not because of anything they said or did, but because of how your system responds to their energy (although sometimes negative talk can have the same impact.)

Common Symptoms of People Intolerance

You might walk away from a conversation or gathering feeling:

Emotionally drained or sluggish
On edge or unusually irritable
Depressed for no reason
Foggy-headed and unable to focus
Like you’re carrying around someone else’s mood
Moody or spaced out

Sound familiar?

It’s not in your head. Us Sensitive people are like emotional sponges. We absorb more than most, and if we’re not careful, that can throw us right off balance.

Why Does It Happen?

In short: stress. Any form of stress. Physical, emotional or energetic can impact us deeply, especially when we’re tuned into the subtle shifts in others.

When we’re around certain people, we may unknowingly take on their emotional energy, even if they don’t seem outwardly stressed. They might be masking anxiety, anger, or sadness, and our sensitive system just picks it all up like a sponge.

Other times, it’s simply a clash of energy. Our system says, “No, not for me,” even if nothing’s wrong on the surface. And like with food, it may have nothing to do with quality, just compatibility.

So, How Do I Deal with People Intolerance?

I’ve learned a few handy tools to help clear out those dense vibes and return to my natural state of peace and balance:

1 Avoid when possible: Let’s be real—sometimes you can’t avoid people completely. But if I notice repeat reactions around certain individuals, I try to create a little distance when I can. Boundaries are magic.

2. Take a shower: There’s something about water that just cleanses energy. A quick shower (especially with sea salt soap or essential oils) works wonders for shaking off lingering emotional gunk.

3. Get grounded: This could be a barefoot walk on the grass, sitting in the garden, or just lying on the floor with my hand on my heart. Grounding helps pull my energy back into me.

5. Reach for your crystals: Black tourmaline, amethyst, or hematite—just having them near or in my pocket brings a sense of calm and protection. They’re like energetic bodyguards.

6. Do yoga: Gentle movement helps move energy through the body. It’s especially good when I feel sluggish or heavy after social time.

7. Deep breathing: Even 3–5 minutes of mindful breathing can reset the nervous system. Inhale peace, exhale people problems.

8. Aromatherapy oils: Lavender, frankincense, chamomile and clary sage are some of my go-tos. A few drops on the wrists or diffused into the room brings an instant energetic shift.

Final Thoughts

So yes, people intolerance is a thing. And while it might sound odd to some, those of us who feel deeply know it’s real. The key is not to judge yourself for it or blame others.

Everyone is vibrating at their own frequency. Sometimes, those frequencies just don’t work well with ours, and that’s okay.

Take care of your energy like you would your health. Tune in, notice how you feel after time with others, and don’t be afraid to honour your needs.

Whether that means taking a step back, grounding yourself, or just breathing through it.