10 Things That Can Drain an Empath’s Energy (And What They Are Here to Teach Us)

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

Being an Empath is a beautiful gift, but it can also be exhausting.

Because we feel so deeply, we often absorb more than we realise, not just emotions, but environments, stress, and the energy of the world around us.

This isn’t a doom-and-gloom post. Quite the opposite.

The things that challenge us are often the very experiences that shape us, strengthen our intuition, and awaken us to a deeper understanding of ourselves and others.

Here are ten things that can weaken an Empath and why it’s important to become aware of them.

1. Constant Exposure to Negativity

Science has shown that our moods, stress levels and even our physical health can be affected by the people we spend time with. Emotions are contagious. Spending long periods around people who are chronically negative, critical, angry or pessimistic can impact our nervous system, increase stress hormones and leave us feeling emotionally depleted.

For an Empath, this effect is often magnified.

Empaths don’t simply observe emotions, they often absorb and process them as if they were their own. This can lead to exhaustion, anxiety, overwhelm and even physical symptoms such as headaches, digestive issues or poor sleep.

One of the greatest lessons an Empath learns is that protecting their energy isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.

2. Living in a State of Conflict

Most Empaths dislike confrontation. They naturally seek peace and harmony and often become distressed when there is tension around them.

Conflict doesn’t simply end when the conversation is over. An Empath may replay it repeatedly in their mind, analysing every word and carrying the emotional weight long after everyone else has moved on.

Living in prolonged conflict keeps the body in a state of stress, activating the fight-or-flight response and flooding the body with stress hormones.

This is why learning healthy boundaries and understanding that not every battle needs to be fought is such an important lesson for Empaths.

3. Consuming Fear and Distressing Media

We now live in a world of constant information.

News alerts, social media feeds and a never-ending stream of upsetting stories mean we are exposed to more suffering than any previous generation.

For Empaths, this can feel overwhelming.

Witnessing cruelty, violence or injustice, even through a screen, can create genuine emotional distress. The body often responds as though it is experiencing the event firsthand.

While staying informed is important, constantly feeding ourselves fear and negativity can leave us anxious, disconnected and emotionally exhausted.

Sometimes the most healing thing we can do is step away from the noise and return to our own inner stillness.

4. Narcissistic and Manipulative Relationships

Empaths often possess qualities such as kindness, patience and understanding. Unfortunately, these beautiful traits can sometimes attract people who seek to control, manipulate or take more than they give.

Narcissistic relationships can be particularly damaging because Empaths tend to see the wounded person beneath the behaviour and may stay far longer than is healthy.

These relationships can leave an Empath questioning themselves, doubting their intuition and becoming physically and emotionally drained.

One of the greatest lessons for an Empath is understanding that compassion does not require self-sacrifice.

5. Not Living Authentically

Empaths are deeply sensitive to truth and authenticity.

When they ignore their intuition, remain in relationships that no longer align, stay in jobs that drain them or continually put others before themselves, something inside begins to feel “off.”

Many Empaths describe this as feeling stuck, disconnected or even physically unwell.

Living out of alignment with who we truly are creates an internal conflict that the body often expresses through stress, anxiety and fatigue.

Our souls always have a way of guiding us back to ourselves.

6. Rejection and Feeling Unseen

Rejection can cut deeply for an Empath.

Because they tend to love wholeheartedly and invest deeply in their relationships, being misunderstood, abandoned or excluded can create wounds that linger for many years.

Many Empaths carry an unconscious fear of not belonging, which can lead them to overgive, overexplain or lose themselves trying to earn acceptance.

But one of the most beautiful lessons rejection teaches us is this:

Not everyone is meant to walk the same path as us, and sometimes being redirected is actually protection.

7. Low-Vibrational Foods and Lifestyle Choices

Everything we consume affects our energy.

Highly processed foods, excessive sugar, artificial additives and nutrient-poor diets can impact mood, inflammation, hormone balance and emotional wellbeing.

Empaths often seem particularly sensitive to what they put into their bodies and may notice that certain foods leave them feeling heavy, anxious or energetically depleted.

Likewise, lack of sleep, constant overstimulation and never taking time to rest can quickly lead to burnout.

The body and spirit are deeply connected, and caring for one always supports the other.

8. Unbalanced Chakras and Energy Depletion

From an energetic perspective, the chakras are centres through which life force energy flows.

When we experience trauma, prolonged stress, grief, anxiety or emotional overwhelm, our energy centres can become imbalanced.

What many people don’t realise is that each chakra is also closely associated with one of the body’s endocrine glands, the glands responsible for producing hormones that influence everything from mood and sleep to metabolism, immunity and stress responses.

For example:

Root Chakra – Adrenal glands (our stress response and sense of safety)
Sacral Chakra – Reproductive glands (creativity, emotions and relationships)
Solar Plexus Chakra – Pancreas (confidence, self-worth and personal power)
Heart Chakra – Thymus gland (immune function and emotional healing)
Throat Chakra – Thyroid gland (communication and self-expression)
Third Eye Chakra – Pituitary gland (intuition and inner wisdom)
Crown Chakra – Pineal gland (spiritual connection and circadian rhythms)

From a holistic perspective, prolonged emotional stress may affect both our energetic wellbeing and our physical health.

Many Empaths find that when they feel energetically out of balance, they also experience fatigue, anxiety, brain fog, hormonal issues or a weakened sense of self.

Whether you view chakras spiritually, symbolically or energetically, they offer us another way of understanding the profound connection between our emotions, our bodies and our wellbeing.

9. Electromagnetic Overload and Overstimulation

Modern life keeps us constantly connected.

Phones, laptops, notifications and endless information streams mean our nervous systems rarely get a chance to rest.

Many Empaths find they are highly sensitive to overstimulation and often feel calmer after spending time in nature or stepping away from technology.

Whether it is the technology itself or simply the mental overstimulation of modern life, creating moments of stillness and disconnection has become more important than ever.

10. Carrying Other People’s Pain

Empaths naturally want to help and heal.

But one of the quickest ways to become depleted is by carrying burdens that were never ours to carry.

Feeling compassion for someone is beautiful.

Taking responsibility for everyone else’s emotions is exhausting.

Learning to support others while still honouring our own energy may be one of the greatest lessons of the empath journey.

And Now for the Good News…

The experiences that challenge us often become our greatest teachers.

Like the lotus flower that grows from the mud, Empaths often discover their strength through the very things that once threatened to break them.

The difficult relationships, the losses, the rejection, the periods of darkness and uncertainty, all of it shapes us.

It deepens our compassion.

It strengthens our intuition.

It expands our understanding of life.

We often have to walk through the dark to truly appreciate the light.

The experiences that weaken us can also awaken us.

And perhaps that is the gift hidden within the struggle.

Until next time,

Diane

18Jun2026

The Summer Solstice 2026: A Powerful Portal of Light for Empaths and Sensitive Souls

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

Saturday 20th June 2026 marks one of the most energetically significant days of the year, the Summer Solstice, a sacred turning point that has been honoured by cultures across the world for thousands of years.

The solstice is the longest day and shortest night in the Northern Hemisphere, symbolising abundance, illumination, growth, and the full expression of life’s energy. Ancient civilisations gathered at stone circles, temples, and sacred sites to celebrate the sun’s power and the promise of renewal, recognising this celestial event as a profound spiritual milestone.

For Empaths and highly sensitive people, the Summer Solstice often feels like far more than an astronomical occurrence. It can bring heightened intuition, emotional clarity, vivid dreams, and an increased awareness of both personal and collective energies. Many describe experiencing a sense of expansion, inspiration, or a powerful inner calling during this period.

A Time of Reflection and Transformation

As the sun reaches its highest point in the sky, the Summer Solstice invites us to pause and acknowledge how far we have come since the beginning of the year. It is an opportunity to celebrate growth while gently releasing anything that no longer aligns with our highest path.

For empaths, this is especially important. Because sensitive individuals naturally absorb the emotions and energies around them, the solstice offers a perfect moment to cleanse energetic burdens that do not belong to them.

Ask yourself:

What beliefs or fears am I ready to let go of?
What brings genuine joy and peace into my life?
Where am I being called to step into my authentic power?
How can I honour my own needs while continuing to care for others?

The answers may arrive quietly through meditation, journaling, or simply spending time in nature.

Prehistoric stone circle of standing stones in a grassy landscape — Aerial view of a prehistoric stone circle surrounded by green fields

The Solstice and Nature’s Healing Energy

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15May2026

The Natural “Energetic Antihistamine” for Empaths

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

Greetings,

I hope everything is keeping wonderful in your world.

Today, I want to talk again about a hormone that many Sensitive souls desperately need more of in their lives. Because when you deeply feel the emotions, moods, and energy of others, emotional overwhelm can quickly become exhausting.

Thankfully, this powerful hormone plays an incredible role in soothing the nervous system and helping us regain emotional balance.

It is one of my many theories that an Empath’s emotional reactions to other people’s energy can work very much like an allergy.

Let me explain…

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25Apr2026

Why You Feel So Much Lately (And What It Really Means)

Posted in 7 Secrets of the Sensitive, Mind, Body and Spirit, Protection for the Empath by Diane Kathrine

In recent years, the world has experienced noticeable shifts in collective energy, mood, and emotional tone. Whenever the emotional climate of the population changes, Empaths tend to feel it in unusual and intense ways. The real challenge, however, is how these shifts influence the behaviour of others and disrupt daily life.

When there is any kind of collective shift, buried emotions often rise to the surface. This can trigger conflict, anger, blame, and general unrest. As an Empath, if you suddenly feel overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or as though you’re under attack, without any clear personal cause, it may simply be the result of these energetic and psychological changes happening within the masses.

During these times, you may feel detached, almost as if you’re observing life from outside your body. Conversations around you might seem predictable or trivial, and you may wonder why people continue repeating the same patterns or clinging to the same “hamster wheels.” It can feel like watching from the sidelines as others avoid facing their own truths, while anger and distraction seem to dominate everywhere.

Many people are now confronting their long-buried issues, yet resisting the process. Instead of acknowledging their emotions, they may project them outward, onto politics, onto loved ones, or onto whatever target feels safest. This creates a destructive energy that builds and becomes overwhelming for those who are Sensitive.

Observing this chaos from a place of detachment does no harm. But it’s easy to get pulled in and absorb emotional energy that isn’t yours. Because this disruptive energy is so strong, the mind tries to make sense of it. Even when the emotions don’t originate from your own experiences, the mind searches its memory bank for something that matches the feeling.

For example, if you once had a painful disagreement with someone, you may suddenly find yourself revisiting those memories, even if you’ve long since forgiven them. If the mind can’t find a matching memory, it may latch onto something else: a friend’s injustice, a political issue you normally wouldn’t care about, or a minor irritation that suddenly feels enormous.

As Empaths, when we absorb strong emotional energy from others, it can easily trick us into believing it is our own. No matter how self-aware we are, these energies can still catch us off guard.

How You Might Experience Collective Energy Shifts

1. Waking Up Vexed

A common experience is waking up, either in the morning or in the middle of the night, feeling angry or fixated on a past injustice that wasn’t even on your mind before. These thoughts trigger emotional responses, and starting the day in a low mood often attracts more low-energy experiences.

2. Skin Outbreaks

Sudden sores, spots, or itchy patches may appear without explanation. Intense emotional energy can disrupt the body’s natural balance and manifest through the skin.

3. Stomach Troubles

Emotional turbulence often affects digestion, leading to discomfort, bloating, acidity, or changes in bowel movements. You may also crave heavier or sugary foods.

4. Disruptive Thought Patterns

Strong collective energy can trigger repetitive or intrusive thoughts, even in those who usually have calm, steady minds.

5. Feeling Under Attack

People who have avoided self-reflection may now be facing their unresolved issues. Instead of dealing with them, they may lash out, blame others, or project their inner turmoil. If you’re on the receiving end of this, it can feel dark, heavy, and destabilising.

What to Do

If the emotional energy isn’t yours, you don’t need to “fix” it, unless it triggers something unresolved within you. But you do need to clear it from your energy field and redirect your mind. Whether the emotion belongs to you or not, it can still affect your body if you allow it to ignite anger or distress. (And of course, not all physical symptoms are energetic, consult a health professional if issues persist.)

Here are some gentle ways to release overwhelming energy:

1. Calm the Senses

Take a salt bath with essential oils while listening to soft, soothing music. Salt is a powerful energetic cleanser and a wonderful way to end an emotionally heavy day.

2. Distraction

If your mind becomes stuck in destructive thoughts or you feel unfairly attacked, find a healthy distraction. Redirecting your focus withdraws your energy from the emotional trigger.

3. Acceptance

Acknowledge that the energy may not belong to you. Don’t fight it or try to analyse it, simply allow it to pass through.

4. Nurture Yourself

Eat nourishing foods, stay hydrated, exercise, ground yourself, and spend time in nature.
Walking outdoors is one of the best ways to reset your energy. Lying on the grass under a star-filled sky is another powerful cleanser. If you can’t get outside, visualise nature in meditation, it can be just as effective.

5. Forgiveness

It may sound cliché, but holding onto negative emotions harms you more than anyone else. Whether the trigger came from another person or from absorbed collective energy, offering forgiveness, internally and quietly, helps release the emotional charge.

Ultimately, learning to navigate the shifting energy of the people around you is part of “the path.” It requires awareness, discernment, and a steady return to your own centre.

Not everything you feel is yours to carry, and not everything you witness is yours to fix. But nurturing your body and mind will help these transitions run a lot more smoothly, which ultimately can keep you happier and healthier.

Until next time,

Diane.

By Diane Kathrine

Have you ever felt like the world is just too much? Like you’re constantly absorbing other people’s emotions, feeling drained for no reason, or overwhelmed by energy you can’t explain?

You’re not broken. You’re an Empath. And you’re not alone.

7 Secrets of the Sensitive is the ultimate guide for Empaths who are ready to stop struggling and start thriving. This isn’t just another self-help book, it’s a transformational toolkit designed to help you understand your sensitivity, protect your energy, and unlock the incredible power that’s been within you all along.

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19Mar2026

The Quiet Signs A Friendship Is Doing More Harm Than Good

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

You may already know, especially if you are a regular reader of my blog, that certain people in our lives, those who bring stress, tension, or emotional heaviness, can quietly wear us down over time. They can even add years to our life in the way of premature aging.

I remember having a sense of relief when I finally understood that creating a little distance from certain relationships isn’t cold or unkind; it can actually be a deeply healing act towards ourselves.

But it took me time, quite a lot of time, to arrive at that understanding.

For the longest while, I questioned myself instead. I wondered if I was just being overly sensitive, if I was reading too much into things, or expecting too much from people. There was also that lingering belief that stepping back from someone, especially someone who had been in my life for a long time, somehow made me unkind… or worse, disloyal. I think many of us Empaths feel like we should endure and make space for others even when it is damaging.

This is a subject I explored last year in my post “Empaths Are Not Emotional Punchbags”, where I discussed the importance of recognising when we’re being drained or overextended. But what I feel drawn to talk about now are those long-term friendships that don’t necessarily feel obviously harmful, but over time have shifted or quietly soured in ways we may not immediately recognise.

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11Dec2025

The Empath’s Guide to Not Losing It at Christmas

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

It’s creeping up again… that time of year that some people adore and others quietly dread… Christmas!

For many, the festive season is pure magic. But in the past, December was one of my trickiest months.

As a child, and well into my twenties, I was Christmas‑obsessed. I loved every sparkle and song. But as the years rolled on, something shifted. December started to feel heavier, harder to navigate, and strangely draining.

Like clockwork, every year around late November, my mood dipped and my energy plummeted. I’d feel foggy, tense, almost like I was coming down with something. Then, as if by magic, around December 28th… I’d bounce back.

I blamed everything: work stress, too many nights out, winter darkness, lack of exercise, too much sugar, too much wine, you name it, I pinned it on that.

I tried everything to make December easier: changing my diet, cutting out alcohol, exercising more, taking sunshine breaks… but nothing shifted that December slump.

And then it hit me, the problem wasn’t my energy at all.

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25Jun2025

Does People Intolerance Really Exist? (Spoiler: Yes!)

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

Apologies for not posting since early May. I’ve been crazy busy will a gazillion different things (still am).

I started this post two months ago, and I’ve only just got around to its completion. And I have to be honest, I have used AI for the edit.

Anyone who blogs will know, it’s not always the article writing that takes the time, it’s the editing. But just so you know, the words are still from me.

So, here we go…

Does people intolerance really exist?

This isn’t about disliking someone because of their attitude or personality. It’s not even necessarily about the other person at all; it’s about how our energy reacts to their energy. And that reaction? Well, it can feel like emotional whiplash.

What Is People Intolerance, Really?

The best way I can describe it is this: it’s a bit like a food intolerance.

Some foods that are healthy on paper—fruits, vegetables, nuts, etc. But for some of us, they just don’t sit right. It’s often the histamines, oxalates, or lectins. Either way, the reaction can range from brain fog and tiredness to irritability or even mild anxiety.

And people can affect us in a similar way.

You spend time with someone: maybe a co-worker, a relative, or even a friend you like, and afterwards, you feel completely wiped out. Not because of anything they said or did, but because of how your system responds to their energy (although sometimes negative talk can have the same impact.)

Common Symptoms of People Intolerance

You might walk away from a conversation or gathering feeling:

Emotionally drained or sluggish
On edge or unusually irritable
Depressed for no reason
Foggy-headed and unable to focus
Like you’re carrying around someone else’s mood
Moody or spaced out

Sound familiar?

It’s not in your head. Us Sensitive people are like emotional sponges. We absorb more than most, and if we’re not careful, that can throw us right off balance.

Why Does It Happen?

In short: stress. Any form of stress. Physical, emotional or energetic can impact us deeply, especially when we’re tuned into the subtle shifts in others.

When we’re around certain people, we may unknowingly take on their emotional energy, even if they don’t seem outwardly stressed. They might be masking anxiety, anger, or sadness, and our sensitive system just picks it all up like a sponge.

Other times, it’s simply a clash of energy. Our system says, “No, not for me,” even if nothing’s wrong on the surface. And like with food, it may have nothing to do with quality, just compatibility.

So, How Do I Deal with People Intolerance?

I’ve learned a few handy tools to help clear out those dense vibes and return to my natural state of peace and balance:

1 Avoid when possible: Let’s be real—sometimes you can’t avoid people completely. But if I notice repeat reactions around certain individuals, I try to create a little distance when I can. Boundaries are magic.

2. Take a shower: There’s something about water that just cleanses energy. A quick shower (especially with sea salt soap or essential oils) works wonders for shaking off lingering emotional gunk.

3. Get grounded: This could be a barefoot walk on the grass, sitting in the garden, or just lying on the floor with my hand on my heart. Grounding helps pull my energy back into me.

5. Reach for your crystals: Black tourmaline, amethyst, or hematite—just having them near or in my pocket brings a sense of calm and protection. They’re like energetic bodyguards.

6. Do yoga: Gentle movement helps move energy through the body. It’s especially good when I feel sluggish or heavy after social time.

7. Deep breathing: Even 3–5 minutes of mindful breathing can reset the nervous system. Inhale peace, exhale people problems.

8. Aromatherapy oils: Lavender, frankincense, chamomile and clary sage are some of my go-tos. A few drops on the wrists or diffused into the room brings an instant energetic shift.

Final Thoughts

So yes, people intolerance is a thing. And while it might sound odd to some, those of us who feel deeply know it’s real. The key is not to judge yourself for it or blame others.

Everyone is vibrating at their own frequency. Sometimes, those frequencies just don’t work well with ours, and that’s okay.

Take care of your energy like you would your health. Tune in, notice how you feel after time with others, and don’t be afraid to honour your needs.

Whether that means taking a step back, grounding yourself, or just breathing through it.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

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2May2025

Coping with Noisy Energy in Daily Life

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

Have you ever read the term noisy energy, and wasn’t too sure what it meant?

Or are you not sure how it may affect you?

That’s what I hope to address today.

To best explain the concept of noisy energy, it is when you feel someone’s energy so powerfully that it almost feels like noise.

You might react to it as you would to uncomfortable loud sounds. Or you may just feel irritated by it. (You may even be tempted to say shush.)

So, the next question has to be, what makes someone have noisy energy?

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25Apr2025

5 Quick Hacks to Calm Your Nervous System

Posted in Help for Empaths by Diane Kathrine

Did you know that irritability is one of the first signs that your nervous system is dysregulated?

Makes sense for those of us who are naturally laid back.

I know I can get irritable if I’ve experienced too much stress or if I’ve picked up too much emotional energy. But I also get ‘the prickly wobbles’ when a certain food does not agree with my body.

The point is, we all need to give our nervous system a break from time to time. Yet with hectic lives, finding time for ourselves can sometimes feel like an impossibility.

So, today I present you with five 5-minute hacks that are aimed at quickly calming your nerves and thus giving the old nervous system a break.

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Before I get to that, I should probably give you a brief nervous system overview:

The nervous system plays a crucial role in coordinating and regulating our bodily functions.

It consists of two main parts: the central nervous system (CNS), which includes the brain and spinal cord, and the peripheral nervous system (PNS), which encompasses all the nerves outside the CNS.

The nervous system is responsible for functions such as memory, learning, and emotional regulation.

So, yes, pretty important for us Empaths to keep on top of it.

If we don’t work to maintain the health of the nervous system it can impact our overall well-being and quality of life. It can also make Empath life more difficult.

YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WILL ALWAYS CHOOSE FAMILIAR CHAOS OVER UNFAMILIAR PEACE UNTIL YOU LEARN

TO HEAL DIFFERENTLY.

– MELISSA BLYNN

Taking intentional breaks allows the nervous system to recuperate, reducing stress levels and helping to prevent burnout, which can also help restore balance.

This not only enhances mental clarity but also improves our mood and emotional regulation. (meaning we can better control those pesky emotions).

I must add, before I get to the hacks, that the absolute best way I have found to quickly balance my nervous system is by having a regular short yoga practice that is heavily focused on my breath. Without the breath focus, yoga simply becomes a form of gymnastics.

Not to say there’s anything wrong with gymnastics, but it doesn’t have the same recuperative benefits.

That said, I know not everyone practices yoga, and as time is often short, we still need quick ways to reset.

And that’s what I hope to offer with these quick hacks.

1. Practice Deep Breathing

A really easy one to try is the 4-count breath.

Inhale for 4 seconds, hold the breath for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and hold the breath again for 4 seconds. Then repeat for as long as feels good. A few minutes is normally enough.

When you inhale allow your belly to fill up like a balloon. I find this really helps with relaxation.

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I also find the breath retention part particularly good for letting go of internal stress and returning calm

2. Take a Power Walk

A short 5-minute brisk walk can do wonders for resetting your nervous system. Round the block or even on the spot.

It is a good idea, with your walk, to try and get yourself a little breathless. It helps shed the stress.

3. Listen to Music

Pop your earphones in and listen to one of your favourite songs. Even better, sing or hum along (I find singing or humming in public places really helps to ‘blast away’ the emotions of others).

Music can release those feel-good hormones that help melt away the stresses of your day. Putting your earphones just makes the experience more immersive.

4. Have a Snack

Ever suffered from being hangry? This is a sign of having low blood sugar and nervous system dysregulation.

By having a snack containing protein and fat (not sugar), it can help stabilise your blood sugar.

Even better if you follow this with a brisk power walk.

5. Hydrate

This may seem like an odd one, but often when we are stressed, we are also dehydrated.

When the internal workings of our body are doing more than usual, by being stressed, it can lead to dehydration.

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By glugging down plenty of clean mineralized water, it can really have an uplifting cleansing effect. Adding in a slice of lemon also helps, because stress depletes vitamin C.

So, there you go, 5 quick ways to give your nervous system a well-deserved break.

Have you tried any of the above? Did you find them helpful?