Many people struggle finding their life purpose, especially the Empaths.
Feeling confused as to whether we are walking the ‘right occupational path’ is all too common for the Sensitive. There are many reasons for this, but the way the world makes us ‘feel’ certainly contributes to this confusion.
Because we get exhausted, depressed or overstimulated by spending too much time around others, it leads to feelings of unfulfillment, which we often blame on our chosen profession.
This sense of unfulfillment may push us towards trying many different vocations, in the hope it will put us on the path to our ‘true’ life-purpose.
Empaths are hardwired into learning, gaining knowledge and wisdom. We have active imaginations and look for ways to stimulate our creative mind. We may believe we like trying out new jobs because we have yet to find a career that is a fit, but there could also be another reason…
Have you happened to notice recently that when you are in a really good place, maybe doing something that makes you feel happy and uplifted, you find yourself thrown off centre and being pulled down into a darker place?
You may receive a phone call, text or email off one of those people in your life who act as a trauma trigger, or a family member, who always manages to push your buttons, shows up.
Do you think this is by chance?
Those of us who have been working diligently on self-development, through balancing the mind, body or spirit, will have seen many, many positive changes in recent times. Our vibration is continually rising; our intuition has increased, as has our ability to manifest, and our moments of blissful clarity are getting bigger and better. We are becoming heart centred. Yet, despite this, we can still be pulled down into a low vibrating space. Continue reading →
Most Empaths have at least one person in their life who cause them to experience negative emotions, just by being in their presence. These people, who may be friends or family members, seem to spew acid when they talk: they complain about everything, appreciate nothing and only look out for their own interests.
It is quite normal for an Empath to experience heightened emotions and feel another’s buried pain, and we want to help others out with their problems when we can, but we are not supposed to be someone’s emotional punch bag or toxic dumping ground.
Toxic people can drain your energy within a matter of minutes of being in their presence, and even self-protection techniques may not work to prevent their dark vibes seeping in.
Typical sensations experienced when with toxic people:
Anger or feelings of bitterness: This can last for the duration of being in their presence and up to 10 days after. Depending on their negative traits will depend on what you feel.
Fatigue: Struggling to keep your eyes open, especially if they are venting.
Being out of sorts: A range of strange feelings wash over you, from being spaced out, to nausea.
Negative talk: Finding yourself talking negatively of others, even though it is not a typical trait of yours.
Apathy: Losing all previous zest and optimism.
If you have a toxic person in your life, you may have already tried helping them, by sharing what has helped you in dealing with the rigours of life. Sadly, they did not want to listen and have no intentions of making any changes to themselves, preferring to continue to offload their negative rants on you.
The Empath generally avoids hurting or causing unnecessary pain to others, and it is for this reason many keep in their lives those who cause them unhappiness. Yet, one must always put the emotional health of self first.
If a food or substance made you violently ill, or caused you to feel depressed, you would likely avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause emotional turmoil.
We have a responsibility to keep our body and mind healthy. If another continually causes stress that we cannot cope with (all stress eventually leads to illness) the only option is to remove them from our life.
I am not talking about having the ego dented by another’s random disrespect. Everyone have people who offend, hurt or make them angry, by their lack of understanding. And we in turn will no doubt, unknowingly, do the same to others. This issue is about those toxic friends, or family members, who repetitively (and often intentionally) bring us down.
The point comes in all toxic friendships when you have to decide if it is causing more harm than good.
Here are some questions to ask that may help you evaluate your friend/relationship and hopefully help you see if it is a healthy one:
Am I taking anything from this friend/relationship?
Does spending time with him/her make me happy?
Do I dread being in his/her presence?
When was the last time I enjoyed being in his/her company?
Do we have any of the same interests?
Is it a one-sided friendship with me fitting in with his/her needs?
Does this relationship affect my emotional health?
Do I feel ill, emotionally drained or have intense negative emotions after being with him/her?
Am I being used as an emotional dumping ground?
Does he/she have a lot of negative thoughts or anger towards me?
Am I learning anything from spending time with him/her?
Is being in this relationship making me grow spiritually, emotionally or other?
Is this relationship beneficial to either of us?
Has he/she become dependent upon me?
What are my real reasons for staying in this relationship?
There are many reasons we encounter toxic people. A common reason being the Mirror of the Empath. Certain encounters act as a mirror and show us weaknesses or issues we need to resolve within ourselves.
Any undesirable behaviour that repeats, in any type of relationship, is something that needs to be investigated. Repetition highlights flaws or issues that need to be worked on and learnt from.
We all learn from the bad situations presented in life. Yet, if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out, no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it is time to cut the cord.
Once you have learned from an experience you don’t need to re-learn it over and over. You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing other people’s negativity to grow.
This is not about being spiteful or uncaring. You can be grateful for all they have shown you in life and send them love. But when it feels time to let them go, it is.
If you want to learn the secrets of being an Empath, find ways to restructure your life and harness your hidden power, this may be of interest to you.
Hope this helps on your Empath Journey.
Until next time…
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I have attached a link to an article I came across quite randomly whilst writing this post and offers another writer’s perspective on ways to deal with toxic people, and although it is not written with the Empath in mind, it is worth a read.
We attract into our life who and what we are. To draw more magnificence to your Empath life it helps to develop a more magnificent outlook on life.
Here are 50 ways of being which, if adopted, will see many incredible positive changes happen in your life!
1. Let Go of Expectations of Others
Expectations can cause untold pain and frustration. Let them go and it will free you from disappointment.
2. Learn to Accept
You cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance is essential if you want to live a happy, healthy life.
3. Release Dependency on Others
When you depend on another to make you happy, or to give your life meaning, you miss out on discovering how incredible you are.
4. Control your Thoughts
Stress and unhappiness are born from chaotic Empath musings. Quieten your mind and calm your thoughts.
5. Judge Not
Judging makes you fearful of judgements. Choose not to judge, yourself or others, and you will find more emotional freedom.
6. Stop Procrastinating
Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Why waste life thinking about what you could be doing?Just do it!
7. Be at Peace with Criticism
Trying to avoid criticism prevents you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be as an Empath.
8. Change not Another nor let Another Change You
Don’t mould others into the people you want them to be and don’t change yourself to please another. Just be! Allow your Empath self to be true.
9. Don’t Take it Personally
If another treats you badly, it is a reflection on them. Not you!
10. Get Out in Nature
Spending time in nature is grounding and uplifting and will soothe your Empath soul.
11. Never Give Up
Good things don’t arrive overnight. People have little appreciation of that which comes easy. No matter what your age: Believe in yourself and continue striving towards your goals.
12. Leave the Crowd Behind
You are here to enjoy your exclusive life experience. Follow your calling not the crowd’s.
13. Collect Experiences not Treasures
When you leave your body you only take your knowledge and experiences. Make as many as you can.
14. Abandon the Fear of Failure
A failure is an experience that simply teaches you how not to do something. Whatever you choose to do as an Empath you will learn. Don’t let fear hold you back from trying.
15. Stay Protected
Keeping away from negative, draining energy will keep you empowered as an Empath.
16. Embrace Success
Expect success as an Empath and you will always have it!
17. Love What You Do and Do What You love
Follow your passions. When happy in your work success will follow.
18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance
Youthful beauty fades but inner-beauty continues to grow. Let your inner-Empath-beauty shine!
19. Take Responsibility For Your Energy
You receive back what you give out. Project powerful, uplifting vibrations into the world and collect the rewards.
20. Create The Change You Want To See
Don’t wait. Create your Empath dream life. Be the change see the change.
21. Know Your Worth
No man is better than himself. Putting another on a pedestal instills the idea of unworthiness. Believe in your own brilliant Empath-self!
22. Listen to Others
Listening generously, to those who truly need to be heard, is healing. Heal others heal yourself.
23. Think Not of Revenge
You don’t need to ‘teach another a lesson’. Believe in karma. What goes around does indeed come around.
24. Remember You Have Freewill
It is your journey! Choose the Empath life you want to live.
25. Send Love into the World
Opening your heart to others is a show of strength. Love is empowering. Love will heal you and the world!
26. Let Go of Pain
You wouldn’t hold a fiery ember, so why allow painful emotions to burn within?
27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity
Creativity allows the Empath’s spirit to soar. If a rule no longer works make a new one.
28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily
If you want to evolve as an Empath, do something each day that makes you uncomfortable.
29. Stop Waiting for Another to Complete You
The only person who can make you whole is you.
30. Learn to Be on Your Own
Spending time alone turns the Empath’s journey into an extraordinary expedition.
31. Express Gratitude
Being grateful sends a powerful message to the universe that you are open to more reasons to be grateful.
32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive
A positive inner-voice is the key to a happy, productive Empath life.
33. Eat What Nature Intended
For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean. Listen to your intuitive dietary promptings and feed yourself nourishing food.
34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit
Your body, mind and spirit are connected. Only when all three are balanced will you find harmony as an Empath.
35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No
Only do it because you want to. You will never please others by constantly giving into their expectations. They just expect more.
36. Remember Your Friends
One of the biggest regrets of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them.
37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues
The child in you lived and got through those difficult times; don’t let the adult be punished by them.
38. Let Go of Resentment
Why let another’s actions blight your life? Resentment makes you bitter. Let it go.
39. Control Anger
Breathe though and release it. Anger only punishes the bearer.
40. Help Others to Help Themselves
Instead of doing it for them, show them how.
41. Lose The Need to be Right
Wanting to be right just makes others wrong. Value opinions.
42. Question Everything
Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. Trust your Empath gut. If it doesn’t feel right chances are it’s not.
43. Give Without Expect of Return
Doing nice things for others, without expecting anything back, is nourishment for the soul.
44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties
Like attracts like. Talking like a victim keeps you stuck in that mind-set.
45. Strive for Many Life Experiences
Keep your Empath life energised with new experiences every day.
46. Chase Your Dreams
Don’t die with your dreams unrealized. Step out there and create them.
47. Trust Your Intuition
Your Empath Knowing has more power than you may realise. Let it guide you.
48. Find Your Passions
How will you know what your true passions are if you don’t seek them out?
49. Select Acquaintances With Prudence
As an Empath, you become who you spend most time with. Choose wisely.
50. Choose Happiness
For a joyful life make the decision to feel happy each and every day. And stay away from anything that hinders your joy!
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If you’re curious why people behave strangely around you or act as though they don’t like you, you may want to read this post: The Mirror of an Empath.
Hope this helps on your Empath journey.
Until next time,
Diane
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In recent months, I have had many comments asking how to develop the traits of an Empath.
What does it mean to develop the traits of an Empath? Basically, it means being able to discern the emotional energy of others and better understand what it represents. It also means to transmute negative energy, build intuition and learn how to stay protected.
Although we came into the world ready to do our job of transmuting the dense and dark energies of the world, many Empaths find the emotional energy of people toxic, which quickly takes them out of balance and prevents them from developing their traits.
Quite often this is caused when the aura becomes compromised.
The Hazards of Modern Life
There are many things about modern life that weaken an Empath, making life difficult and sometimes painful. But when the aura weakens, the energy of people has a negative impact.
Whether they are aware of it or not, Empaths are constantly at work in the unseen realms mopping up negative emotional energy.
It is part of an Empath’s life-path to help bring balance into this chaotic world, which involves transmuting emotional energy.
But it is too easy for an Empath to take on another person’s pain and mistake it as their own. This causes the type of stress that can lead to unnecessary illness and a leaky aura.
By building a powerful energy field (aura) , it helps prevent other people’s emotions from having a ‘destructive impact.’ This is an essential step in developing your Empath traits. (If your aura is leaky, you may need to take some further steps. Read more here.) One easy way to do this is crank up your endorphins.
I recently watched a program about solar flares (coronal mass ejections) and how power plants protect themselves from their impact. When a solar flare is expected to hit, the power station cranks up the electricity in the grid to full blast. This gives a protective shield and diffuses the energy of the flare through the grid. By doing this, the Sun’s energy cannot destroy the grid.
This reminds me of what happens when we do vigorous exercise: we crank up our feel good endorphins, which in turn raises our vibration and builds a stronger energy field, so that when the external energies hit, they simply get diffused. Even just 5 minutes of working-out to your max reaps huge benefits.
Another way is by stilling the mind.
Thoughts become destructive if repetitive and bleak. Negative thoughts weaken the mind and body, and greatly compromise the immune system. They also make discerning other’s emotional energy more challenging.
When the mind is quiet, we are better able to discern between whose emotion belongs to whom. This not only means we can switch off from another person’s emotions but we are better in control of our own.
Meditation is the best way to still the mind.
For some Empaths, switching off the mind can be quite torturous. But there are many mind-stilling forms to try. Yoga, for example, works as a moving meditation and is a better choice for those who find meditation alone difficult. See this post for more details.
Meditation also builds intuition. Stronger intuition helps us navigate our way through life and prevents us from making bad decisions. (see this post)
At a higher level, it also opens us up to the invisible realms of healing or clairvoyance. However, developing as a healer or clairvoyant should always be done under the guidance of a good teacher (who knows about Empath abilities).
Many people struggle finding their life purpose, especially the Empaths.
Whether they are aware of it or not, Empaths are constantly at work in the unseen realms mopping up negative emotional energy. 
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