I’m sure many of you have experienced a social hangover. It is one of the banes of Empath life.
So, what exactly is a social hangover and how does it affect us?
Basically, it’s similar to a boozy hangover, except it’s caused from consuming too much people energy and it happens whether you drink alcohol or not.
The physical symptoms are varied from one Empath to the next, but here are just a few: fatigue, headaches and generally feeling blah. For more extreme cases, it may require a day in bed.
Years ago, after drinking alcohol, I assumed feeling rough or tired the day after was all down to guzzling too many Budweiser. But when I ventured out socially and did not drink alcohol, I could not understand why I still got a type of ‘hangover’.
I soon clicked on to the fact that it was the aftereffects of being peopled.
As it’s new year and we all have intentions of becoming healthier and happier, I’ve decided to do a fantastic offer on Kindle Countdown for all you lovely Empaths. For 2 days you can get the Empath Eating plan for $1.26. Yes, that’s right, only $1.26. The price will gradually increase until it goes back to full list price on 16th January 2019.
You can click here to have a quick read through of the first part of the book, to see if the information is for you. Remember it’s only for 2 days that the price will be so low.Continue reading →
Don’t you love the energy of a new year? Just today I felt a real shift in the way the energy feels. It’s like there’s a freshness all around and an upbeat vibe drifting through the air.
It’s as though positive intentions are ramping up, as ideas for fresh starts are being put into place all around.
I was away for Christmas, in the Caribbean, so I missed a lot of the Xmas madness. I got back on the 28th, and there was still a real stressed-out energy lingering. It wasn’t very nice to come back to. Even my husband found the energy dark and stressful, which made him a little grumpy. (My Empath ways have shown up in him more in recent years and he has become much more in tune with the energy of others.)Continue reading →
Empath life often feels like a double-edged sword. On the one hand we have incredible encounters and insights that few will ever experience, and on the other, we endure emotional energy and overwhelm that can at times be crippling, and affects our quality of life.
Experiencing the energy of those we come into contact with impacts our biology. Meaning, our immune system is compromised and our hormones get overworked, just by picking up the emotions of others, which can eventually lead to anything from depression to physical health problems.
So, yes, we have to constantly work to heal, reset and stay in balance.
The problem is it is difficult to know what we need to heal for each given situation. Continue reading →
Do you know how to unplug from the energy of others?
Would you like to find out how?
This is a very important subject for an Empath, because if we don’t unplug from the energy we pick up from others, then the energy of others will control our life.
Empaths have to work hard to stay grounded, balanced and in control of emotions. And if we want to stay ‘on top’ we have to learn to switch off from the energy of the masses.
I think you’ll agree; these past years have gone from one level of trauma to another. The energies have switched from stress to anger to hate to fear to more stress.
It’s obvious the populace is being distracted and divided with the intention of keeping us from finding our true-inner-power.
What I mean by this is, we are in a unique time where past issues are coming up to the surface to be resolved and healed for everyone. Not only in the way of karmic return but in calls to find balance of the body and mind (modern life puts a huge strain on our human bodies).
When past trauma is ready to be healed it shows up in many ways: feeling constantly dissatisfied, suffering illness, anxiety, fear, anger and other strong emotions. There are many other ways in which people receive their inner-calls to make changes and go within.
Instead of being able to address old wounds and or physical issues, as they arise, people are being given reasons to project their emotional pain on to others. Which many Empaths pick up, even if they are not in direct firing line.
When we are kept angry or distressed, by focusing on the world’s injustices or propaganda, it not only keeps us trapped in a negative mind-set but it stops us from taking the steps to face and heal any physical or emotional wounds that need attention. We then continuously draw back more reasons to feel emotionally low.
For those Empaths who have already done much inner-work, it sometimes feels like we are being taken back several steps. It doesn’t help that feeling the emotional energy of the world, when it is so negatively charged, can be incredibly isolating.
We not only need to keep swapping and changing our healing/grounding techniques to stay protected, we need to stay ‘unplugged’ from this energy.
Consciously Unplug
This is so important, even if it’s just for five minutes a day.
By consciously unplugging from all external distractions, it not only allows for a vibrational reset, it shifts our focus. Which helps us break the connection to the emotional energy of others, and allows us to tune into our higher-self.
By simply closing your eyes and focusing on your breath or doing some type of meditative practice, it works well to unplug.
One technique I like to use is the ‘balancing triangle breath’.
This may sound strange, but in my mind’s eye I draw a triangle with my breath between my nose and third eye.
If you want to try it: Inhale through your left nostril (you can block the opposite nostril with thumb), taking the breath up to the third eye (centre of forehead), then on the exhale see your breath travel from the third eye down the right nostril and then back over to the left nostril. After a few breaths reverse the flow from right to left, and then keep alternating.
The image may help you get a better idea of what I mean (I apologize for the creepy face).
The above technique not only helps you unplug and re-centre, it also helps balance your masculine and feminine energy (learn more here).
Take a Salted-Magnesium-Essential-Oil Bath:
A salt bath with added magnesium and lavender is an incredible combination for instilling calm and balance. It’s also super soothing to your emotions and helps you unplug from the world.
Salt is great for clearing all types of people energy, especially when it is negative. It also heals and softens the skin.
Magnesium helps one relax, and boosts energy, supports the endocrine system and aids sleep (quality sleep is essential for repairs). You can buy magnesium bath salts in most supermarkets.
An essential oil, such as lavender, is both relaxing and uplifting and is great to use after being peopled.
This is something I probably don’t need to remind you of, but I also know how hard it is to do. If there’s one thing that can suck dry your last remnants of goodwill, it is being around negative people or ‘energy vampires’
Did you know, science has acknowledged that by just spending too much time around negative people it can influence your health and happiness?
There are many studies showing how prolonged ‘people stress’ can alter gene expression within the immune system… Meaning: anyone can become sick just by hanging out with negative people. For an Empath, however, who can wear another person’s emotional energy like a heavy winter coat, it tends to have a double impact!
So, if you find you are affected by being around negative people, the above are some simple but effective ways to unplug from their energy.
If you have any other techniques that work for you, feel free to share in the comments below
I would never normally share two posts within one week, but when I came across this article, I got quite excited and wanted to share it with you.
Empath traits are seldom talked about by anyone other than Empaths. So, to find an article that was published in the MailOnline about the subject made me giddy as a Kipper.
Is this your emotion you are feeling? Or does it belong to someone else?
Learning to differentiate between ‘whose emotion belongs to whom’ certainly proves to be a challenge for many Empaths.
Not recognizing other people’s energy, within oneself, is a common theme within the Empath world. Just knowing you take on the emotions from others, does not mean you can automatically discern them from your own or are able to prevent them from affecting you. Continue reading →
Being in harmony with people is essential to an Empath’s health and wellbeing.
It should go without saying that as Empaths we should be extra vigilant of not only whom we allow into our life but also those we allow to stay.
Is it time to let them go?
This isn’t about us thinking we’re too good for some people. It’s about letting go of those who constantly make us feel bad, who drain our energy and suck the joy from our life. And that should probably include the people who are angry or bitter towards us, those who attack or lie about us to others and those who seem to enjoy seeing us suffer.
Sadly, the people this includes is most often adult family members or friends who we would have at one time considered close. Continue reading →
There is no escaping this simple fact of life, the majority of Empaths are easily hurt by the criticisms and judgements of others. In some cases, so much so, that it may prevent them from taking any creative risks in life.
The fear of criticism holds too many good Empath’s back.
But as the old saying goes:
‘The only way to avoid criticism is to say nothing, do nothing and be nothing’.
And I doubt there are many Empaths who want to go through life doing nothing. Continue reading →
How would you describe yourself, introvert or extrovert?
Many Empaths identify with being an introvert, for the reason that introversion tends to go hand-in-hand with an Empath’s journey. But that’s not to say there are no extrovert Empaths.
If you started life exhibiting more extrovert ways, the way the world makes you ‘feel’ can trigger or build introvert leanings, such as: a regular need for solitude, not enjoying spending time around people, experiencing social aggravation when around crowds, etc. Continue reading →
Sometimes we all need gentle reminders of ways we can help ourselves to live a happier, more empowered life.
But it’s also important to remember, we attract who and what we are. To draw more magnificence into your Empath life, it helps to develop a more magnificent way of being.
Here are 30 quick ways of being that can bring about incredible changes to your life, and unleash your hidden power, just by applying them: Continue reading →
Do you ever wonder whether you are an Empath or not?
Over the years, I have often been asked the question: ‘How do I know for sure if I’m an Empath?’
My answer always tends to be the same: Generally, if you’re an Empath when you discover the term and the traits it encompasses, you just know whether it applies to you or not. It is like a light bulb moment. You finally have an explanation for all that you feel and have experienced throughout your life… But, there are always exceptions. Continue reading →
Today, I want to address the subject of power imbalances within an Empath and the need to control what we feel.
As Empaths, many of our emotional sensations are amplified. We react to criticism much more than most and, when out of balance, we become incredibly oversensitive to everyday life situations.
Because of this, we may suffer with depression and are more open to attract depressive moods from others (like attracts like).
The fact that so few people have control over their lives makes for a lot of unhappy people. Empaths pick up on the collective sense of dissatisfaction, whether they are aware of it or not, which can greatly affect their own moods. This can then trap them in negative thinking patterns.
As Empaths, we get down when it seems like we have no control of the way we feel. Which is understandable. Getting bombarded with the emotional energy of others (on top of our own emotions) is no fun, and it can certainly influence the way we operate.
What we pick up from others can shape our life, especially when we are not aware the emotional energy we are experiencing does not belong to us. (If you struggle with defining the emotional energy of others read this.)
But other people’s energy is not the only thing that can lead to emotional instability and a sense of power imbalance. Continue reading →
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