If you are an Empath you have probably had at least one morphing experience. Some of you may experience it daily .
For the purpose of this post, I shall liken Empath morphing to having an encounter with a boggart… You would have to be familiar with Harry Potter to understand where I am going with this.
In the Harry Potter books, a boggart is described as a shape-shifting non-being that takes on the form of the viewer’s worst fear.
So what does this have to do with an Empath you might ask? Continue reading →
This Monday 20th June 2016 befalls a rather special occurrence… The summer solstice.
The summer solstice has long-since been noted as a magical day with a time-honored history of celebrations. This year’s solstice comes with an extra bonus of being a full moon. The last time this occurred was 70 years ago.
There are not many who have ever experienced a celestial event of this magnitude. Having a full Strawberry Moon on the same day as a summer solstice is a truly rare event.
The full moon in June is known as the Full Strawberry Moon because it is the time of year to harvest ripening fruit, which also coincides with the strawberry season.
If you are sensitive to the energy of full moons and/or solstices, this one will surely pack a magical punch. It is a great time to set your intentions for the year ahead and wonderful period to spend in contemplation and meditation (and to spend as much time as you can in nature) to experience the full magnificence of this occasion.
Empath Power
Empath Power, the book, has now been released. I timed the release to coincide with this magical solstice weekend. It is available in both paperback and eBook versions. Here is a snippet of what it entails:
There are some major changes happening on the planet affecting Empaths on many levels. These changes bring pain, emotional disruptions, repetitive, negative thought patterns and physical distress.
With any energy shift Empaths, and anyone of a Sensitive nature, get clobbered from all directions. Not only do they endure the discomfort of a shifting period in their own way, but they also pick up on how the populace are experiencing these ups and downs. If you often feel overwhelmed and overloaded by all you have to process during these turbulent times Empath Power is for you.
As an Empath you are one of life’s game changers! It is imperative you stay grounded, protected and healthy during these testing periods and this book is your guide to show you how!
You can go to the Kindle store here to read the first section for free and see if this book is what you might need at this present time.
Continuing from my last post, today I want to discuss how a person’s residual energy can trigger an Empath.
Residual energy is a trail left by a person’s moods and emotions. It can also be created when a conflict has occurred in a certain place.
How does dark residual energy affect an Empath..?
Well, when left by a person, it can seep into their energy field and influence their thoughts and moods for days after being picked up. Which is obviously a problem if it is negative.
When filled with negative emotions, anyone and everyone can leave a trail of dark lingering energy. But those who affect the Empaths in the most painful ways are the people who act as Emotional Trauma Triggers (ETTs).
A trauma trigger is an event from the past that can trigger a reaction, such as anxiety or fear, in the present. But even residual energy, left by someone who caused you emotional pain in the past ( or those who carry the same energy signature), can become an emotional trauma trigger.
How do you know if someone is an emotional trauma trigger?
Generally, the mere mention of an ETT’s name is enough to ignite an unpleasant emotional response. But the worst reaction happens when you have spent time with them and their residual energy has seeped into your aura.
Signs you have been triggered:
Your mind keeps going back to said person in a negative way
You start re-living a long-forgotten injustice from your past
There are many layers and mysteries to an Empath. So much so, much of life is spent uncovering and discovering what being an Empath is all about.
The sooner we discover who we are, and come to understand our incredible traits, the better we can navigate the journey.
Sadly, there are too many who go through life not knowing who they are. Nor realizing some of their quirky ways are actually part and parcel of being Sensitive. And this is why I continue to spread the word about the many ways of an Empath
Here is a list of some of the less discussed behaviours that sets the Empath apart (as well as a few of the better known ones – thrown in for good measure).
1. Possesses Emotional Intelligence
Empaths encompass incredible emotional intelligence, which they use to make careful decisions they hope will bring balance into their life and the lives of others. But as emotional intelligence is a rare gift, in a world ran by logic and rules, it can leave the Empath hurt and vulnerable by those who do not function or think in the same way.
2. Excellent Judge of Character
Sensing all they do about people and life makes the Empath an excellent judge of character. Their first impressions are always correct.
3. Senses Deep Emotional Energy
An Empath senses emotions intensely, both their own and others. But this ability can weaken them, especially when it is emotional pain they feel. This is the opposite of who they know they are. Deep within they recognize they are here to do something special, but are often held back from finding their purpose by the confusion of what they experience emotionally.
4. Endures Empath Overwhelm
It is easy for an Empath to become overwhelmed without necessarily understanding the reason for it. They often look for ways to shelter from this overwhelm in vices such as alcohol or drugs. It may take time for the Empath to discover these substances have the opposite effect and make their pain more intense.
Every Empath experiences overwhelm at some point, it is one of the most challenging aspects of being Sensitive.
The overwhelm endured, from taking on too much emotional energy from others can, at times, be unbearable. It is often caused by being “peopled”. But being around crowded places or overly negative people is not the only way an Empath becomes overwhelmed.
When someone has caused them hurt, by their words or actions, or if they have had negative thoughts directed towards them, it often throws the Empath off-balance, sending them nose-diving into overload. And that is not to mention what they suffer from being in the firing line of another’s low-mood.
The more out of alignment the Empath (feeling run down, emotionally low, having unbalanced chakras and hormones, etc.) the worst they are affected by overwhelm and the longer it tends to last.
Empath overwhelm affects everyone differently, some much worse than others, at different stages of life. It can lead to lethargy, apathy and mood swings, it can trigger thoughts that keep you awake at night, and dark emotions that flatten you.
The best way to combat the impact of overwhelm is to take action as soon as you become aware of it.
The following techniques work quickly to stop Empath overwhelm in its tracks:
1. Eat a small amount of chocolate:
I say small amount because large amounts have the opposite effect (I discovered this the delicious way, by devouring too much).
Chocolate can transform and uplift your mood in an instant. Containing compounds which promote happiness, chocolate is the go-to food when you have been emotionally or energetically triggered.
Serotonin is a neurotransmitter produced by eating chocolate, known as the happy hormone. This hormone not only activates your bliss centers but it also helps prevent you from dipping into dark thoughts.
In my opinion, milk chocolate tends to work better than dark (as dark chocolate has a higher amount of caffeine). But the type you choose is something you can experiment with yourself.
Most chocolate contains refined sugar which is a big cause of depression, and inflammation, not just in Empaths but all humans. So keep chocolate just for the times when you’ve been hit by emotional overload.
Eat between 2 to 4 small squares of chocolate, washed down with a pint of cool water. The water speeds up the healing and re-balancing process.
2. Temple hold:
Place two to three fingers on either side of the temples (between the eyebrows and hairline)and hold for as long as needed.
This simple technique helps break the repetitive thoughts that are triggered from emotional pain and overwhelm.
I’m not sure why this method works but it does. (I suspect it is because it activates acupressure points and soothes the parts of the brain responsible for emotions.) It makes one feel safe and helps contain any excess ‘head energy’.
Great to do at bedtime, when emotional overwhelm turns into rampant thoughts that keep you awake. Taking some calming, conscious breaths at the same time further helps.
3. Short burst of high intensity exercise:
A mini power-walk or run, dynamic yoga moves, dance routines or skipping, etc. helps burn off raging or uncomfortable emotions. I’m talking very doable bursts of exercise that last between 1 to 5 minutes.
Performing short bursts of high intensity exercise releases endorphins into the body, which block the pain transmission signals and produce euphoric feelings that calm the entire system.
A great exercise I use, when I have been emotionally fired-up, is the plank.
Most will have heard of the plank; it is a challenging yoga move that activates all the muscles in the body. Maintaining it for just 30 seconds is often all it takes to blast out any overwhelm or negative energy.
There is a variation of the plank to do whatever your fitness level, from beginners and beyond. You will find plenty of excellent instructional videos on YouTube to get you started.
Whatever exercise you choose, as your mini blast, make sure to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable and your muscles burn. (The saying ‘fight fire with fire’ springs to mind here).
4. Singing:
This may not be something you want to do when feeling low, but it is excellent for lifting the moods.
Sound affects you on many levels and singing raises your vibration and can stop emotional overwhelm in its tracks.
Anyone can sing, hum or chant, even whistling works. Just make sure the song you choose is uplifting and not one that stokes up painful emotional memories. Try it and see.
5. Avoid caffeine:
Being a stimulant, caffeine will heighten any emotional overwhelm you are experiencing. You don’t always realize how caffeine worsens your emotions because the effects kick in 30 to 40 minutes after consumption. It can make you anxious and jittery, and negative emotions are amplified. Not having caffeine will not always prevent emotional overload, but it significantly reduces the symptoms and the way it affects you.
“By the time you have finished reading this book you will gain control of all you feel; you will know how to find happiness, health and emotional stability and you will discover your true life purpose. Finally, you can enjoy the fantastical life you were born to live!”
For any of you who may have read my blog for a few years, you may have noticed I am writing much more often than I ever have. The reason for this is because my life has seen many incredible changes and they are changes that have happened by the changes I have made to my life.
I want to pass the information on:
Within ‘7 Secrets of the Sensitive – Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power’ I help you understand why you experience what you do. I show what simple steps you can take to revolutionize your life, take back your power and live the life for which you were destined. As an Empath you deserve an incredible happy life!
If you do happen do purchase a copy I would just like to say a huge thank you and I look forward to it helping transform your Empath life! Click here for more.
For too long the Empaths have been taken down by an emotionally charged world. Now is the time for that to change!
7 Secrets of the Sensitive reveal the hidden power of an Empath and provide the keys to unlock their true potential.
By the time you have finished reading this book you will gain control of all you feel; you will know how to find happiness, health and emotional stability and you will discover your true life purpose.
Finally you can enjoy the fantastical life you were born to live!
Fabulous news! The print version for 7 Secrets of the Sensitive: Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power is now available to order. You can order it here on Amazon or here for Barnes and Noble.
You can also order the eBook (saving $12.01 on print price)
Just in case you don’t know what the book is about, here is a little snippet of what you will discover:
Why parts of the Empath brain overreact to emotions and learn how to stop this from happening.
Projection and how Empaths send out what they think and feel to others.
How the disruption of our chakras affect the body and mind.
How and why certain foods destroy the Empath’s emotional wellbeing.
The reason why Empaths feel everything so powerfully.
What the dominant and sometimes overpowering Empath gut sensations mean.
The overwhelming emotional overload Empaths experience and how to instantly overcome it.
How Empath fatigue affects life and who or what causes it.
Why Empaths attract certain types (including narcissists) and repel others.
The reason Empaths form instant dislikes for certain people.
Inauthentic behaviour and how it weakens an Empath.
Trauma triggers and their causes.
How to recognize psychic attack and how to protect from it.
Thoughtbombing, what it is and how to stop it.
How to tell the difference between your own emotions and those which don’t belong to you.
If you want to revolutionize your Empath life this book is for you!
Is it your emotion you are feeling? Or does it belong to someone else?
Learning to differentiate between ‘whose emotion belongs to whom’ certainly proves to be a challenge for an Empath.
Every Empath quickly discovers of their ability to sense the emotional energy in others, but some struggle to distinguish these emotions from their own.
I often get asked questions like: ‘How do I define what I feel in another person?’ or ‘How can I block the emotions coming from others?’
Not understanding what other people’s emotions represent is more common than you might think within the Empath world.
When I was younger (teens and twenties), I did not know I could sense another’s emotions. I thought my own insecurities made me feel uneasy when around certain people. If anyone carried hidden pain, negative energy or anger issues, I felt them as a deep sense of discomfort. Which I wrongly interpreted as being part of my own social hang-ups.
You have probably heard about the emotional freedom technique (EFT), known as Tapping, but did you know it could help balance your Empath emotions?
The premise of EFT is that by tapping certain acupressure/meridian points on the face and body it releases blocked energy and suppressed emotions.
Tapping is also known to help with addictions, chronic pain, insomnia, anxiety and for calming persistent thoughts.
The concept of Tapping was derived from the Eastern medicinal systems of acupuncture and acupressure. Both of which use the body’s meridian points to aid in healing.
It is claimed that by tapping the acupressure points, with your fingertips, it activates your body’s innate healing power.
For those Empaths who dislike meditation this may be an excellent alternative!
The repetitious practice of Tapping is meditative. Any meditative practice, which stills an Empath’s busy mind and calms their emotions, is of value.
Just like meditation, Tapping is a practice one has to build to see the best results. It is said that EFT can calm, and heal, the most powerful of emotions or emotional memories, but it has to be practised regularly.
It is always beneficial for the evolving Empath to try new ways of staying in balance. When you stay in control of your thoughts and emotions, it allows you to live happily and without restriction in your own little corner of the world. And for this reason, it is worth giving EFT a try.
Most Empaths have a strong sense of intuition. It is part of who they are and serves them in many ways.
The Empath’s intuitive antenna is always ‘on,’ sensing what is right or wrong in their world. But understanding how to read these intuitive signals is important if they want to live a more peaceful and happy life… And, to discover how to do this, the Empath should become better acquainted with their gut sensations.
The “feelings” within the gut, or solar plexus region, are coming from what is known as the second brain. The sensations come from the enteric nervous system, a network of neurons lining the gut, and are responsible for the “butterflies” felt in the stomach area.
Science now recognizes what ancient yogis discovered hundreds of years ago: that emotions are influenced by the gut nerves.
Everyone feels excitement fear and nervousness in the gut area, but an Empath feels it so much more.
Meditation is one of the most powerful tools an Empath can use for their personal growth. It strengthens the mind, body and spirit and builds a powerful shield of protection against the energy of others. But that’s not all…
Meditation also opens up the Empath’s intuition like nothing else.
Strong intuition requires clean thinking. And this is where meditation comes in. When you have clarity of thought and a lucid mind, magical things happen.
Not only does meditation build intuition it also reprogrammes the brain into being able to better deal with negativity. This enables you to deal with the onslaught of thoughts, energy and emotions picked up from others.
Negative energy picked up from others can activate negative thoughts in your mind. Negative thoughts create stress within the body which is destructive to health and wellbeing.
Empaths spend a lot of time in their heads. Which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. But spend too much time around certain people or in certain places, where the energy is low-level, and painful memories, anger or ideas of being wronged can be triggered.
This is why some type of meditation is crucial for the Empath to a) help you recognise when thoughts, you are experiencing, have been triggered by external energy, b) switch off from them, and c) develop the ability to stay grounded and detached.
Some Empaths find meditation difficult to get into because of their creative and over-active minds. But the more busy or chaotic your thoughts, the more you need to still them (also, the more we resist something the more we tend to need it).
An overly cluttered, thought-filled mind will do nothing to help you grow or develop your Empath abilities. Thoughts are addictive and the darker ones can lower your mood faster than anything… When the mind is reset, through meditation, you can switch off or disengage from destructive thoughts much easier.
Perseverance is all that is needed.
Starting with a five-minute practice and then building up will reap incredible benefits.
If your thoughts are keeping you up at night and creating unnecessary worry it is probably a good time to start a practise. Regular meditation helps you detach from thoughts, fact!
Transformation may not happen over night, but it does not take long for you to see how a regular meditation practice is totally transformative and a fast-tracked way to developing greater intuition.
To see what amazing transformations are to be had by practicing meditation, set yourself a four-week challenge and allot an amount of time each day to practice.
I find mornings are easiest.
Perhaps get up ten to twenty minutes earlier and start with five minutes meditation then gradually build up.
If you are on a time limit set a gentle alarm. It is amazing how quickly time goes once you are enveloped in your private mind sanctuary.
(The only time meditation is not recommended is if you are suffering deep depression. A moving meditation, such as Ashtanga yoga, may be more beneficial.)
I find the best way to meditate is with an erect spine, either sitting in a straight-backed chair or in a comfy cross-legged or kneeling position on the floor. Keeping the spine straight and upright allows the energy to flow up and down and the breath to be calm.
There are some who will say lying down is a perfectly acceptable way to meditate, which it is, but it is too easy to fall asleep when lying down and the opportunity to consciously quieten the mind is lost. Just make sure you feel comfortable before you start.
If you find meditation difficult it may be a good idea to try a guided meditation. There are hundreds to choose from on YouTube. I have included a couple, just to get you started (using earphones is beneficial with the guided meditations).
Before you start any guided meditation make sure you are compatible with the narrator’s voice. If you do not find the voice soothing then you may get irritated by it during the meditation, which is a distraction. Oh, and make sure you won’t be disturbed.
Contrary to the title of this post, I am not suggesting that Empaths are in fact covert introvert narcissists. The title was just to grab your attention.
The reason being, last week an article came to my attention that made me stop in my tracks and was the cause for a lengthy conversation with myself about the traits of an introvert narcissist, and how they could be confused with the traits of an Empath.
As you read on you will understand why I felt the need to write this post.
There is much written about Empaths and narcissists and the toxic relationships that can result from these encounters. But I have had many comments on my site (which I don’t publish if they are overly negative or attacking) comparing Empaths to narcissists and this is why I would like to discuss the subject.
Narcissism is defined as a psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation and incredibly high self-esteem with a distinct lack of empathy.
The origin of narcissism stems from the myth of Narcissus, the youth from ancient Greece who fell in love with his own reflection in the water, only to drown in the process.
We have all experienced it, being around someone who has either taken an instant dislike to us, or a bizarre resentment suddenly appears in those we have known for some time.
There may be no clear reason for this change in their behaviour. No matter whether they try to hide their feelings or not, an Empath can sense their loathing and it does not feel good!
Someone taking a dislike to another is a completely normal and acceptable part of life. We are all different and there will always be some people we do not get along with, whether Sensitive or not.
What is often baffling to the Empath is why some people act in an animostic way towards them, when they know they are a likeable and trustworthy person.Continue reading →
Many people struggle finding their life purpose, especially the Empaths.
Feeling confused as to whether we are walking the ‘right occupational path’ is all too common for the Sensitive. There are many reasons for this, but the way the world makes us ‘feel’ certainly contributes to this confusion.
Because we get exhausted, depressed or overstimulated by spending too much time around others, it leads to feelings of unfulfillment, which we often blame on our chosen profession.
This sense of unfulfillment may push us towards trying many different vocations, in the hope it will put us on the path to our ‘true’ life-purpose.
Empaths are hardwired into learning, gaining knowledge and wisdom. We have active imaginations and look for ways to stimulate our creative mind. We may believe we like trying out new jobs because we have yet to find a career that is a fit, but there could also be another reason…
Not sure if you are an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
Would you like to find out?
Let’s have a look at their definitions:
The definition of an Empath is a person who is capable of feeling the emotions of those around them despite the fact they are not going through the same situation.
The definition of a HSP is a person who processes sensory data much more deeply than others. They are oversensitive to aspects of their environment. For instance, HSPs may dislike harsh bright lighting, they get irritated by loud background noise or find they cannot wear certain materials.
Although the definitions above are brief, they could be misleading, in the suggestion that a HSP has only heightened senses and an Empath feels only the emotions of others; when in fact, there is so very much more to their traits.
For example, the Empath and HSP may both:
Sense other people’s moods
Project their emotions, feelings and thoughts onto others
Experience profound synchronicities
Have heightened senses
Feel emotions and pain very deeply
Get hurt easily
Become quickly over-stimulated
Become easily drained when in social situations
Have an awareness of subtleties around them that others don’t.
The definitions between the two are so similar that some may question as to which camp they belong.
So, to give you a better idea, we will look at some questions that will help you determine if you are an Empath or HSP.
We will first look at the Highly Sensitive Person. Saying yes to most of the following questions is a strong indication that you are a HSP:
Are you aware of subtleties in your environment?
Do other people’s moods affect you?
Are you sensitive to pain?
Do you need to withdraw, if you are having a busy day?
Are you sensitive to the effects of caffeine?
Are you easily overwhelmed by strong smells, bright lights or loud noises?
Do you have a rich and complex inner life?
Are you conscientious?
Do you startle easily?
Are you aware how to make others feel more comfortable?
Do you get frustrated if you are made to do too many things at once?
Do you avoid watching violence on TV or in films?
Do you become uncomfortable when a lot is going on around you?
Do you avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?
It is getting ever closer to that dreaded time of year… Christmas!
For some, Christmas is a much loved time. I wish I could make the same claim. For many reasons, the festive season is one my least favourite times of year.
When I was a younger (child to mid-twenties), I loved everything about Christmas. But as the years passed the month of December became harder for me to cope with.
Without fail, every year, at the end of November or beginning of December I would start to feel low and my energy dropped. I would feel as though I was coming down with a bug and would get tense or harassed. Then on or around December 28th I would strangely go back to feeling better.
In my mind I would always find a reason: being extra busy at work, having a busy social life, eating unhealthily, drinking too much alcohol, not having enough sunlight, not doing enough exercise, etc…
Over the years I tried many different approaches to make December more bearable: I made changes to my diet, exercised, stopped going out, stopped drinking alcohol, went on a sunshine breaks… But, no matter what I tried I still felt awful come December.
And then it suddenly dawned on me… what I was feeling wasn’t ‘my stuff’ at all, but everyone else’s.
Continuing from my 
The title was just to grab your attention.
Not sure if you are an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
Empaths Empowered 