One thing we all know, as Empaths, is that we feel other people’s emotions.
Which isn’t always a bad thing, when they aren’t affecting us in a negative way.
However, the problem arises when we start absorbing the emotions, belonging to others, and taking them on as our own.
Regularly absorbing other peoples’ emotions can affect our health and happiness in so many different ways. Often leading to issues such as emotional toxicity.
When we absorb other people’s emotions it can affect not only the way we feel, but also the way we think. It impacts our adrenals, which are the stress glands. This then has a knock-on effect on the other endocrine glands, which are the glands that produce our hormones. This in turn can lead to hormone imbalances.
Everything in the body is connected, and so are our endocrine glands. When one hormone goes out of balance, it can affect another gland and the hormones it produces. So, what starts off as absorbing another’s emotions, and thus taking on their stress, can eventually lead to thyroid issues, chronic fatigue, food intolerances, and so much more.
I often describe the aftereffect of Empaths absorbing negative emotions as like having an allergy or food intolerance. Just like an allergen might give you a physical reaction, when you come into contact with it, you can get a physical reaction from the emotions you absorb. Continue reading →
You may have heard the term emotional toxicity, but didn’t really know what it entailed or whether it applied to you or not.
So, in today’s post, I will walk you through some of the symptoms and then discuss how spending time in Nature offers natural incredible healing.
When we become emotionally toxic, it is most often caused by either having experienced a stressful event, from having a diet and lifestyle that does not agree with us, or even from contaminants in our environments or WIFI.
On top of that, as Empaths, we can also experience emotional toxicity by experiencing or absorbing too many negative emotions.
When we become overwhelmed with emotions, whether they be ours or those we lift from others, the ability to properly filter our feelings becomes compromised. Our insecurities resurface and we often become vulnerable and emotionally intoxicated.
Here are some other ways we can be affected by emotional toxicity:
Signs of Being Emotionally Toxic
1. We don’t feel ourself
This is the biggest sign we are emotionally toxic; not feeling like our usual self. Its almost as if our energy is stagnant and sludgy, and we lack the energy to find ways to snap ourselves out of it.
2. We lack motivation
If we become lethargic in both our body and mind, and don’t feel like trying anything new, this could be another sign of emotional toxicity. Especially if you once considered yourself as a bit of a go-getter. When our vitality diminishes, it becomes an effort to make decisions or to stay on top of everyday tasks. Continue reading →
If you’re reading this, I expect you’ll already consider yourself to be an Empath?
Would you also say you’re an old soul? Or have you never really given it much thought?
It doesn’t really matter either way whether you’re an old soul or not, but one thing I know about the majority of ‘old soul Empaths’ is they are always on the lookout for kindred spirits or even just to have confirmations of what they naturally experience.
You would assume that all old souls are highly Empathic, which most are, but not all Empaths are old souls. People can be sensitive, as well as being sensitive to energy, without having deep, old soul wisdom.
I should also note that just because one Empath is an old soul does not make them more superior to another. This life is a journey of evolvement for everyone. And everyone has different jobs and lessons to learn…. But still, it’s nice to have confirmation of what you feel inside.
If you want to know if you’re an Empath, see this post first. If you already know you’re an Empath but want to know if you own old soul traits, here’s some questions and explanations that will help you make that determination: Continue reading →
As you probably know, things are massively changing in the world. And, as Empaths, we are picking up on all the fear and uncertainty that is all around us, which is affecting many of us in some very random ways.
It is in these times that we have to remain vigilant of keeping ourselves in a good place, both mentally and physically.
But it doesn’t help that it is so much harder to find articles on the internet these days in regards to natural health and wellbeing. It seems like the majority of ‘alternative’ self-help articles are hidden from view or it takes a lot of scrolling through search engines to find what we need.
For this reason, I thought it would be a good idea to share some of the most popular posts, from my blog, that have been shared on social media and the like over the last 12 months.
You may have already read some of the following articles, depending on how long you’ve been following this blog, some of them go back to 2011, but it’s always nice to have a refresher. Continue reading →
There will always be ups and downs. Life tends to throw things our way that take us off course or puts us in a dark place for a period of time.
Everyone experiences difficulties.
No one is exempt.
And it’s not always because you are doing something wrong. However, there are some ways of being that will keep you unhappy if you don’t work to fix them.
The good news is they are very fixable. The problem is just figuring out what is really making us unhappy. Because, it is too easy to blame it on the wrong thing.
As the old saying goes: ‘You’re not unhappy for the reasons you think.’
So, without further ado, let’s take a look at 7 reasons why you might not be happy as an Empath: Continue reading →
As you know, here on my blog, I like to write articles about how to make life easier for an Empath, and how to combat the emotions they often have to deal with.
One of those ways is by sipping a lovely cup of healing char.
Teas that calm your soul and soothe your emotions have so many benefits for an Empath.
Because, let’s face it, one problem that comes with Empath life is having heightened or erratic emotions. (Especially after what we’ve all been through these past years.)
Heightened emotions can lead to all sorts of health issues, especially of the adrenal glands (endocrine glands that produce the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol).
When the adrenals get overactivated, by too much stress, it can cause a whole host of mental and physical problems, as well as autoimmune conditions…
Increased cortisol can also lead to weight gain (hello pot belly), without you having to overeat. Which is made all the worse worse if you drink coffee with caffeine.
So, anything we can do to help soothe our emotions, naturally, is a big bonus for all-round wellbeing (and for our waistline). And this is where herbal teas come in…
Nature gave us many of the things we need to heal, or find calm in life, in the way of herbs and spices. Too often, when on the hunt for a ‘quick-fix’, we overlook these powerful healers.
I do hope everything is keeping well in your world.
Today, I’m back with a post that explains some of the reasons why people are quietly intrigued by an Empath.
Most will never say it, but the following traits do get noticed. Enjoy…
1. An Empath’s Mysterious Ways Cause Fascination
Because an Empath often displays quiet mysterious ways, it can be most intriguing to the outside observer.
An Empath usually has a peaceful yet mystifying aura. They have a strong sense of intuition that helps them understand others’ feelings. They know when someone is sad, despite a cheery smile, or if someone is being fake.
Empaths make others’ feel comfortable, but at the same time they can be complicated and difficult to read, which further adds to their mysterious aura.
2. Empaths Have Distinctive Hobbies and Careers
Many Empaths are contradictions in what they do, whether that be for work or as a hobby. It wouldn’t be unusual to find an Empath with several careers going on at the same time. From being a scientist to a writer, actor to hair stylist, mathematician to nurse, an Empath’s diverse career/hobby choices often puzzle others.
Even if an Empath doesn’t have multiple careers/hobbies, their interests will be diverse. They may read a book on horses one week, a book on Egyptian pyramids the next, then a book on how to heal the aura another week.
Many Empaths class themselves as being Multipotentialites. They like to have many life experiences, are often quietly creative, and thrive when around those from whom they can learn.
3. An Empath May Look Composed Yet Inside They are Crumbling
Something that baffles those who know an Empath, is when they appear externally calm, cool and collected, yet on the inside they are actually crumbling.
An Empath may feel a world’s worth of emotions, and still wear a smile. They often keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves. Having a meltdown in public is not a favourable thing. So, they hold it together until they can be alone.
4. Empaths Suffer by Observing Suffering
An Empath has a nose for those in need. They look out for the underdog, and will tuck those who are suffering under their wing.
To see or feel another in pain can actually make them suffer. They like to give time to those who really need it.
5. Empaths Have Their Own World
Empaths are often endless thinkers, and have an inner world that can be both magical and menacing; but it is a place that offers them great fascination. Their minds can be playful and imaginative and offers them hours of distraction and entertainment.
Because of this exciting inner-world, they sometimes appear to be spaced out or not on people’s wavelength.
An Empath needs to feel things at their own pace and in their own time. No one can force them to see their world differently. It is what it is. Usually, it is only those who are closest to them who understand their stillness.
6. Empaths Are Quiet Perfectionists Yet Often Make Mistakes
Empaths are confusing in that they can be both perfectionists but also careless. They can be as laid back as they come, but when it comes to their work or offerings, they like to see everything perfect. Yet still, they often miss small mistakes.
Why?
Because they are often looking at the bigger picture, sometimes obsessively, so they miss/overlook small details.
7. Empaths Both Like and Dislike Being Around People
Yet another contradiction. An Empath can be both introverted to the point of avoiding people completely, to being people-orientated and extrovert.
Considering they lift the emotions of others; Empaths often perform better than expected when in social situations. But in turn, they need time out from the world to heal and repair. This makes them like and not like being around people. Which often leaves those who they socialise with confused, as to their shifting nature.
Empaths are sensitive to the needs of others, but they get torn between their recharge time and their social duties.
8. Empaths Form Deep Connections Despite Initial Apprehensions
Empaths often crave deep connections with others. But in the beginning of a friendship or relationship, they might struggle to be themselves openly. This might push people away from them, giving the impression that they are uncaring, when all they are doing is finding their feet in the relationship. Not running before they walk.
However, when someone is patient or devoted enough to see this through, they are more than rewarded by an Empath’s loyalty.
9. Empaths Absorb Information Others Don’t Notice
Keen observational skills allow an Empath to take in information from their environment that others might not notice.
They will notice a picture in a room that is slightly off. They will notice a simple change of hairstyle in another, or a slight drop in someone’s weight. They see things others don’t see, and notice everything that isn’t being said in words.
10. Empaths See Beyond a Mask
Empaths not only sense the feelings in another, they can also read their intentions without the other showing any outward clues. They see beyond ‘a mask’, often knowing more than people reveal.
An Empath might reveal the truth of a person, many months or years, before it has become common knowledge as to what that person is really all about.
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Obviously, as an Empath, there may be things on this list that you may or may not agree with. However, one thing that is for sure: Empaths are enigmatic and a mystery to many!
As I was nosing through some of my older posts, I realised I have written many ways for Empaths to block the emotional energy of others, but I have not got one post that is specifically dedicated to just that.
So, today, I present you with some of the top ways to block the emotions you may pick up from others. The techniques also work in balancing your own emotions. A win-win situation for Empath wellbeing.
Hot Amygdala
As you may already know, Empaths tend to have an overactive Amygdala, which, when one is experiencing uncomfortable emotions, activates the stress hormones. Read more on the subject here.
The problem is, when an Empath is around people, whether in the home or out and about, they can pick up their stressed emotions and take them on as their own. This in turn activates the Amygdala. Continue reading →
Have you ever come away from spending time with certain people and felt physically ill?
Did you ever feel like you had a hangover after an evening out with friends, but weren’t actually drinking alcohol?
Or have you had a brief conversation with someone, only to feel pains or physical symptoms in certain body parts?
Have you ever wondered why this might happen?
There are a number of reasons that could be causing these reactions, but here we will look at the most common causes for Empaths to get sick after being in the presence of certain individuals.
1.You Are Intuitively Picking Up on Their Illness
Did you ever seen the famous psychics on TV who describe how someone passed, by explaining how it feels to them? They may experience a pain or pressure in a certain area within their body, which might, for example, tell them what body part of the deceased was impacted by an illness.
This is similar to what an Empath might experience, when they intuitively pick up an illness or imbalance within another.
Just like their ability to feel another person’s emotions, some Empaths can also pick up on physical imbalances, which might make them feel sick or weak in certain body parts. They may not know what it is they are sensing, just that they don’t feel great.
The sensation normally lasts for the duration of time spent in said person’s presence, up to a few hours after.
The good news is once the Empath understands what they are enduring, the easier it is for them to ‘switch off’ the sensation in the future.
2.You are Mixing with the Wrong People
If someone you are interacting with is highly negative, if they have bad intentions, or if their vibration is running at a much slower pace than yours, you can have a physical reaction within your body.
Anything from fatigue to feeling fluey could be experienced.
You will have a worse physical experience if said person also makes you stressed.
Stress contributes to and worsens any health problems. Stress-related illness can lead to autoimmune conditions. These conditions, that often go undiagnosed, cause many complications for the unaware Empath. Which might lead them to becoming physically sick when with certain people.
If someone is no good for you, especially if they activate your adrenals, which release stress hormones, your body will tell you by giving you a physical reaction.
In these cases, staying grounded and protected is your best option for prevention. However, with some people, avoidance may be the best option.
3. Your Immune System Has Been Compromised
When you have a compromised immune system, or an autoimmune condition, it is very common for you to have illnesses and physical reactions to chemicals, certain foods, and drinks. But that’s not all, you can also react to people’s energy in a physical way that makes you feel ill. This works like a ‘people allergy.’
The problem is, many Empaths don’t realise that a compromised immune system is making them sick after being around certain people. But if you are sensitive to energy, in any way, you can react in mysterious ways to people’s emotional energy.
Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies, whether that be food, chemicals, emotions, or people.
If what the Empath is experiencing, after being around certain people, is immune-system related, the physical sensations, or not feeling well, can last for 12 to 48 hours after exposure. This post has 6 ways in which to quickly reduce these reactions.
4. You Have a Permeable Aura
Most Empaths come to realize they have a leaky aura when they experience near-constant exhaustion, and physical symptoms, after spending time around people. These people don’t have to be negative, angry or ill for this to happen. (This is also interrelated with number 3 on the list.)
Anyone whose auric field is permeable will experience discomfort when spending time around others. A healthy aura protects you from ‘ingesting’ the energy of others or any external influences.
Think of a shoe, when there’s a hole in the sole it allows in water, stones and other fragments that could damage the foot. Repair the sole and the foot remains dry and comfortable. This is like the aura. When it is leaky or permeable it lets in energy that doesn’t belong. Repair the damage and you become better protected.
One of the biggest indications of having leaky aura is if you remember a time when you weren’t so badly affected by being in the presence of others. If you want to learn more read this.
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Many Empaths have an inkling of what they should or shouldn’t do to stay happy and healthy, because their inner Knowing is constantly guiding them. Those nagging feelings, that something is not a fit, is your intuition at work trying to get your attention.
If you get physically ill after spending time around certain individuals, and you are not intuitively picking up on their pain or a bodily illness, take it as a warning sign. Either the other person is not good for you, or you have imbalances of the physical or energy bodies that need addressing.
If you are feeling emotionally attacked in anyway, or if you keep experiencing a sense of dread or doom, know that you’re not alone. It is happening to many Sensitive people.
There is some strange energy around. Major solar activity and sun flares have been firing off, which has a massive impact on how we feel physically and emotionally (read more here how solar flares impact emotions).
There is also a dark wave of emotional energy coming from the fears of the masses. People are afraid and confused. ‘The powers that be’ are using behavioural psychology, again, to stir up fear, which is continuing to instil a sense of terror within the populace.
As well as that, people are catching on that something is very amiss in this world. They know things aren’t right and it is causing major agitation and worry.
As an Empath, you will likely be picking up on all these confused fearful emotions, as well as the impact of the flares. It can almost feel like psychic attack. This influx of energy might have taken you right out of your groove, without you knowing why.
What makes matters worse, when we become overwhelmed with dark feelings, for whatever reason, we often forget to do the things we should to stay on top of our game and in control as an Empath…
So, today, as well as letting you know what could be causing any weirdness you may be feeling, I also have some suggestions of what you could be doing to get through these strange and disturbing times, to not only keep you in a positive space but to bring back your joy. Here goes:
Stress Your Body
The first one is to take your body into a space of physical discomfort.
Yes, you did read that correctly.
As bonkers as this sounds, doing something that makes you uncomfortable can be so empowering to your body and mind. But more importantly, it can also nullify any emotional pain or dread you may be experiencing. We’re talking ‘fighting fire with fire’.
I’m not saying you should be sending your body into pain; I’m talking about doing something that puts a positive type of stress on the body.
For example, exercise that makes you break a sweat and breathless, or works your muscles to a point they burn.
If you don’t like the idea of exercise, why not try physical labour, preferably outdoors, that is taxing to your body, but is also something that you enjoy. Gardening, for example, is a work out in itself, and connects you to nature.
Cold-Water Treatment
Another fantastic way to put your body into positive stress is through cold-water treatment. Cold showers, ice baths and the like.
Last night I watched a programme on Netflix about people in the UK, who go swimming every day in outdoor ponds in Hampstead Heath. Even when it is freezing cold, they still brave the icy waters. Most of the swimmers all commented how it made them feel alive and nulled emotional and physical pain.
It reminded me of what is said by those who practice the Wim Hof Method. People transform their life by regularly taking a dip in ice water. Not only do they cure themselves of health issues, but they also master emotional trauma, and stress.
I will admit, I am not a massive fan of the cold-water treatment (I don’t like being cold), but I know it can give incredible results in banishing physical and emotional pain. It is one of those techniques that you have to try for yourself. If you haven’t heard of the Wim Hof Method, I urge you to look it up.
If you do try a cold shower, I would recommend adjusting to the cold water gradually. There are lots of YouTube videos on the subject.
Raise Your Spirits
As well as taking your body into physical discomfort, another fantastic way to stop the ‘weird energies’ taking you down is by doing anything that makes your spirits soar.
Read or watch inspirational or uplifting material. Listen to empowering music that makes your heart sing, and have a good old boogie whilst listening, get out in nature, or get creative.
Being creative in times of distress is so vital to our wellbeing. Not only does it work as a distraction, it also keeps our mind engaged with something positive. Rather than it being overwhelmed by the negative.
Crystal Vibes
Another great way to protect from the energy, that may be frying your circuits and dimming your light, is to get your crystals out. To take back control of your thoughts, use your grounding crystals, on your third eye, to soothe your heart use comforting stones like Rose Quartz, or use Citrine, on your Solar Plexus, to quash negative emotions. Here’s a couple of posts that may help, here and here.
A crystal healing bath, with magnesium salts, also works wonders for soothing any wired emotions. Recipe below:
Stay Away from Anything That Lowers Your Frequency
It is so important to avoid anything or anyone that brings you down. As an Empath, you are already carrying more than you should be, in the way of emotional energy.
If you come into contact with anyone who drags down your spirits, take a wide swerve. Likewise, if you go on any media site that makes you feel uncomfortable or drained, it is best to avoid.
Just watch how something shifts your mood to a lower vibration, bearing in mind this might be things that didn’t negatively affect you before, and try to avoid.
I hope this helps you get through any turbulence you may be experiencing. Don’t forget, we are all in this together. ♥
I have written before about why people might take a dislike to an Empath, for no apparent reason, but I have never discussed why an Empath may take a disliking to others with no outward clues as to why.
Empaths tend to be considerate and understanding, and probably won’t like to admit that they don’t like certain people. But, just like with anyone else, resentments can form towards others.
Generally, if an Empath takes a dislike to you, it will be more because of the way you make them feel. They pick up things that you try and hide, and they will observe everything you don’t say in words. Your energy speaks louder than words.
Unfortunately, most people manage to invoke an emotional response within the Empath at some point, without saying or doing anything, and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain.
Occasionally feeling another’s emotions is nothing compared to what certain people can activate within an Empath, and this is what most often causes a dislike to happen. But that is not always the case…
So, here’s the top five reasons an Empath might dislike you:
1. You Have Narcissistic Traits
The definition of a narcissist is: a psychological condition characterised by self-preoccupation, high self-esteem, a distinct lack of empathy, excessive self-admiration and a tendency towards selfish or resentful behaviours.
There are several other traits that also fit the bill of narcissism such as: one-sidedness, a manipulative nature, unrealistic expectations of others, excess need for control, and a huge sympathy deficiency.
Empaths tend to have very low tolerance for narcissists, and their ways, especially if they ever had a bad run-in with one. So, even if you carry a few of the above traits, you may find an Empath will take an instant dislike to you.
2. Your Vibes don’t Match Your Words
When in the company of those whose words don’t match their vibration, the Empath’s brain tends to scramble. So much so, they may struggle to form a coherent sentence. This mind-numbing effect is caused by their ‘Empathic antenna’ sensing all is not what it seems. It is detecting this person is not showing a true reflection of who they are.
When an Empath comes across fake people, or those who are hiding their true personality, it is common for them to close down. A barrier comes up and there’s no getting past it. Anyone who is not giving truthful vibes will put an Empath on high alert. This impact can also ignite an instant dislike to form, and they may avoid being in your presence.
3. You Wallow in Negativity
An Empath, who both lifts and experiences the dark emotions or intentions of others, are worst affected than most by being around negative people.
Many Empaths come to realize that when they spend time around downbeat individuals, they feel cloudy, lethargic, and low. Too often, the Empath ends up wearing the energy of these people for days after exposure.
Also, those who tend to wallow in negativity can act as ‘energy vampires.’ Their gloomy manner drains an Empath’s vitality even after a short time spent in their presence. This drain can leave them overwhelmed with dark emotions and pessimism. For this reason, many Empaths find a dislike develops for those who are overly negative.
4. You Constantly Criticize Others
Most Empaths abhor being in the presence of people who are constantly critical of others. Those who appear to thrive on seeking out flaws and faults in people are ‘venomous’ to an Empath. It’s as though the criticizers are not happy unless they are finding failings in someone else’s life. Either in their appearance, status or achievements.
Being highly empathetic to another’s suffering, an Empath will always look out for the underdog. Anyone who’s being bullied or treated unfairly draws their compassion. Likewise, anyone who is ‘stealing the light’ from others, in order to feed their own, will gain an Empaths disapproval.
5. You Act as a Trauma Trigger
When someone acts as a trauma trigger to an Empath, it does not mean they are bad people. It can simply mean they carry a lot of buried pain within.
A trauma trigger is a memory from the past that triggers a reaction, such as anxiety or fear, in the present. Because an Empath has a highly reactive amygdala, they are adversely impacted when around those who act as a trauma trigger.
The amygdala is a reacting part of the brain which activates when exposed to stimuli, such as fear or other strong emotions, and stimulates the stress hormones. (Read more here.)
Simply being in the presence of someone suffering emotionally is enough to ignite an amygdala reaction, in an Empath, whether the other person shows their emotions or not. This reaction can mean they overproduce adrenalin and cortisol. Both of which stimulate fearful or pained emotions.
In these cases, an Empath may not know why they don’t like you, they just know they don’t want to be in your company.
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So, there you go. If as an Empath you are reading this as a way to understand why you don’t like certain people, then hopefully this will have given some insight. If, however, you have been spurned by an Empath, and don’t know why, hopefully it will have done the same for you.
It has to be an accepted truth that we all have people who don’t like us, for whatever reason, we are not meant for everyone. And that’s ok.
It is an interesting question, isn’t it? If It’s Not True for Me Does That Mean It’s Not True for You?
If I experience something as an Empath, but you don’t, does that mean that you’re not an Empath?
If you have strong intuition, but I don’t, does that mean I’m a weak Empath?
If I can see your aura, but you can’t see mine, does that make me a more powerful Empath?
If you know the meaning of the emotions you feel in another, but another Empath doesn’t, does that mean they are unskilled or inauthentic?
Or what if I get incredibly fatigued when around a certain person, but another Empath doesn’t, does that mean I’m just bored of paying attention to that person, and the other Empath has got a greater attention span? Or is it they’re vibrational frequency or negativity is ‘sucking out my sunshine?’
I have said it before and I will say it again, as Empaths we are all diverse. Just like everyone else, we have different personalities, we have had different upbringings, we have different DNA, we have differing physical ailments, we have different beliefs and different abilities.
What works for one Empath won’t necessarily work for another.
Some Empaths are introvert. Some Empaths are extrovert. Some Empaths will be highly vocal in their beliefs, others will keep their opinions to themselves (often from learning that when someone is not ready for the information, they cannot hear).
However, we are so pushed into herd thinking, that it becomes difficult for us to accept that, even as Empaths, someone can have different abilities, outlooks or issues to deal with.
I have even seen written, within the Empath community, that an Empath having to ground or protect, from the emotional energy of others, is a ridiculous idea. The writer stated we simply need to learn to navigate the various energetic frequencies instead of ‘protecting’ from them.
Which could be classed as a very valid concept. Learning to navigate the energetic frequencies that surround people and our environment is an excellent idea. But it really isn’t that cut and dry.
Just because one Empath doesn’t need to take measures of protection/grounding, before spending time in public, or within certain energetic frequencies, does not mean that another won’t need to. Their energy sensitivity may be higher.
Humans Are All Different
There are some who need to take extra vitamin C and zinc, in the winter months, to protect from winter viruses. Others take no supplements and are fine. Some people need to use extra high factors of sun cream, to protect from sunburn, others don’t. One person may need to use earplugs to protect from sound frequencies, or music, another might not. And yes, some Empaths need to take protective measures, before going in public places, and some don’t. It really is that simple!
I have said before on this blog that the more I learn about life, the less I know. But something I do know, is that the human experience is supposed to be unique for each of us, as is the Empath experience.
It is just society that tries to convince us that we should all be the same box-tickers, living like robots, with no acceptance for anyone who has opposite beliefs or indeed ‘unusual abilities.’
Lack of Acceptance
Now, although this post may sound like I’m having a good old rant, I really wanted to point out the importance of acceptance, and how it can really change our outlook on life.
We see it all around us. People expect others to accept them, for their beliefs, feelings or ways of living, but they refuse to accept anyone who chooses not to adopt their views…
It is human nature to want to be accepted, but if someone is not willing to understand or accept that others experience life from a different perspective than themselves, how can it happen?
Acceptance is Bad for Business
Why do you think we are encouraged to attack each other constantly, instead of accepting each other?
We cannot stop hate with hate, we cannot stop racism with racism, we cannot stop discrimination with discrimination, and we cannot stop unacceptance with unacceptance. But that is so often the narrative pushed.
One thing is for sure, if the world can simply learn to accept others, and all their differences, then there would be no reason to fight. But I doubt that would ever be encouraged by the ‘mainstream’, because, let’s face it, acceptance of self and each other is bad for business.
Make The Changes You Can, Accept What You Can’t
When I advocate for acceptance of others, I am not saying we get to live happily ever after with someone we have no right to be with, or that we should put up with bad behaviour. But if we accept the fact that we are all supposed to be unique, it goes a long way towards a happier life.
I am also not trying to encourage anyone not to make changes in life or just to accept their lot. More that we should ‘change what we can change, and accept what we can’t’.
When we truly accept that we are all meant to be different, in our appearance, health, thoughts, beliefs and abilities, it is incredibly liberating.
Even by accepting that some people can be completely disagreeable and we will never get along with them, it frees up so much of our time wasted in frustration by them or their ways.
If It’s Not True for Me does That Mean It’s Not True for You?
So, going back to the title of this post: As Empaths, if It’s Not True for Me Does That Mean It’s Not True for You?
We can say that my life and your life or my truth and your truth may be poles apart, but if we can come to accept that, then the world will be a much brighter place to live.
In many of my posts, I write about techniques that Empaths can used to protect themselves from the rigours of Empath life (here, here,here and here).
What I probably haven’t mentioned, in many of these posts, is that several of these protection techniques also act as powerful forms of distraction that work in so many empowering ways.
Distracting the mind from pain, whether physical, spiritual or mental, is an incredible tool which we often forget about using to our advantage…
Examples
There are many occasions when we use techniques to distract the mind without necessarily realising. When experiencing hunger pain, for example, if all you think about is food, you’ll remain hungry. If you engage your mind, with work or some tasks, your hunger quickly vanishes.
Another example can be seen in yoga: Whilst moving through the poses we might focus on ujjayi breath and holding bandhas (physical and energetic locks). By doing this, not only does it help direct prana, but the mind is focused and taken off the physical challenge of the pose. This also has the effect of taking the attention away from the stresses of everyday life. Which in turn contributes to a calm yet uplifted mindset after practise.
There are many other examples I could discuss, but, instead, let’s get straight to the easy distraction techniques you can use in your everyday life to stay empowered and on top:
1. Stay in Your Passions:
Doing what you love is so empowering during these challenging times. Not only does engaging in your passions work as a powerful distraction, but doing things that lighten your soul, and bring a sense of peace and joy to your life, will lift you up like nothing else.
If you don’t feel like you have anything to fit that bill, it is the perfect time to start experimenting with hobbies and pastimes, or just get creative.
In a world of rules, routine and restrictions, people seldom get time to be creative. But spending time creatively is one of the easiest ways to revel in the feel-good-factor. When you feel good you also feel grounded and centred. When creating from your passions, or interests, it has an uplifting effect and keeps the mind away from dark thoughts and feelings. A must for all Empaths.
2. Listen to Uplifting Music and Sing!:
Listening to the songs that move you in all the right ways can instil such a sense of joy and euphoria. If you know the words, sing along. It is incredible how much you can be uplifted by the music you love. It envelops your body and mind in the most powerful vibrations and distracts the attention in all the right ways. Singing along can itself be meditative. (Researcher, Gunter Kreutz, also discovered singing increases cortisol and other chemicals involved in healing.)
Music can go both ways. My advice would be to avoid music that encourages melancholy or brings back difficult memories, even if you enjoy the song.
This may sound strange. How can pen and paper help distract the mind? Well, when you write things down, for example with what you want to do going forward in life, you connect with your right brain which helps keep you in creative mode. There is something about handwriting, as opposed to tapping words out on a computer, that helps activate our creative mind. When the creative mind is activated, as opposed to the logical left mind, you also receive more revelations in regards to what is currently happening in your life, or in our world, and can help you see the ‘bigger picture’.
In regards of to what to write about, either let your heart-mind guide you to what is right for you, or make notes on how you would like your future to be.
4. Get Near Trees:
This might sound like the hippiest statement ever, but spend as much time around trees as you can. Gaze upon them. Even go as far as hugging a tree. This not only has the effect of distracting the mind from the darkness in the world, but it takes you into a place of calm and healing. Let’s face it, we wouldn’t be alive if we didn’t have trees and greenery. There is so much wisdom and healing energy around trees (this post explains more), and that is exactly what many of us need right now to clear, rebalance and reset from the demands of Empath life.
5. Stop Doing Things That Bore You:
This isn’t so much a form of distraction. More a form of empowerment. Feeling bored or unengaged by things that you used to enjoy, or were once an interest, is going to bring you down fast. If you are finding hobbies, lifestyles, or even people, you used to love, have stopped being pleasurable, maybe it’s time you stopped engaging in them, or at least have a break and see if you miss them. Perhaps try a new hobby instead.
6. Exercise:
Engaging in physical activity is a brilliant way to distract the mind from overwhelm or uncomfortable feelings. It’s also a fantastic way to keep the body and mind healthy. Depending on how you feel should depend on what is the best form of exercise to create balance within the body and mind.
If you are feeling lethargic and tired, some type of HIIT training (High intensity interval exercise) is super beneficial. It is also the best exercise for releasing human growth hormone. HGH is a hormone that naturally elevates our moods, raises physical energy and keeps the mind in a more positive space. I have attached a link here to a 20-minute HIIT video on YouTube that can be done by most fitness levels (it is even beneficial to do if you suffer chronic fatigue). Just be sure to start slow, at your own level and don’t force your body into anything it’s not ready for.
If you are the opposite of being lethargic, and feel wired or hyper, then breath-and-bandha-focused yoga will help bring you back to a state of equilibrium, whilst also working as a distraction for the mind.
The reason I recommend breath-and-bandha-focused yoga is because, speaking from experience, it can be easy for the mind to wander and remain unfocused in yoga practice. When practising using the breath and bandhas simultaneously, however, it takes your yoga practice to another level. Here’s a couple of links to videos, of how to engage yogic breath and bandhas, on YouTube:
Walking, whilst engaging your focus on your scenery/surroundings, is also fantastic for both high and low energy levels. Out near trees, even better!
The Biggest Obstacles
One of the biggest hurdles we face, when empowering the body and mind, is that when we are stressed or feel out of sorts, by the happenings in the world or indeed just Empath life, we often don’t feel like doing anything. We get so wrapped up in what we feel that we don’t think about anything else. But, when in a state of unease, this is the perfect time to use the power of distraction to engage the mind.
If you want to use clever distractions to your advantage, my advice would be to engage in them the moment you feel your mind wandering into ‘darker territory’ or, even better, find something you can do daily that keeps you in a state of empowerment…
How many of you out there are doing what you really want to be doing in your life? How many of you feel like you need to make a change, but you wouldn’t know where to start?
How many of you are feeling tired, overwhelmed or lost, with no forward momentum?
Are you one of the Empaths who is deeply affected by the darkness in the world? Or do you find you are putting everyone else’s needs, ideas or opinions above your own?
Without wanting to sound uncaring and cold, we have come to a stage where we need to stop worrying about how others are living their lives, what they are doing or not doing, believing or not believing, and instead start focusing on creating our new path and building a better brighter world.
This isn’t about turning our backs on those who are suffering, or those who ask for help. It is about stopping being controlled by the ‘old ways of being.’
The world is shifting into a new era and it is time for us to catch up.
It has become blatantly obvious that the old world is being deconstructed (whether that be by good forces or bad), and we are all being put in a position to let go of a life that no longer serves and start creating the new. And this isn’t something affecting only Sensitive people.
I cannot tell you how many people I have spoken to, in recent times, who are feeling overwhelmed with life, who are fed up with their work or the way the world is, and they feel stuck.
Many are finally realising that they are doing jobs for the money, rather than enjoyment and sense of fulfilment, and are angry because they cannot see a way out.
Or, if it’s not people being unhappy in their careers, they are having their jobs or ways of life stripped away from them.
People don’t understand what is happening.
NOTHING MAKES SENSE
Nothing is making sense anymore, is it? Do you think this is for a reason?
To me, it’s as though life is being made so uncomfortable for people, either through feeling deeply unhappy in their current circumstances or by having familiar ways of living taken away, that it is forcing people to make changes.
We really do have to lose our old life in order to create the new.
So yes, we are in times of letting go and creating the new. But it is not coming easily.
For many of you, it probably seems like you are losing your old lives and freedoms and there is nothing to replace it other than darkness, gloom and fear. On the surface, this is all very true.
THE HIJACKED MIND
I’m not sure whether people are aware just how much external influences impact our lives. Our minds have been hijacked and our beliefs manipulated to make us feel helpless with no control over our lives.
When the mind is hijacked by external influences, such as a fearmongering media, or anything that keeps our focus in a ‘dark place’, it takes us away from the voice of our guiding higher self, and ensnares us in a mental trap where our thoughts and beliefs can easily be governed.
For the Empaths of the world, these are particularly trying times. Being connected to the emotional energy of the people means it can impact our thoughts and moods. So, when it comes to staying in a positive or creative mindset we are at a huge disadvantage. This post will help.
TIMES OF MANIFESTATION
As mentioned in my last post, manifestation seems to be a current theme. If you missed it, I noted how when thinking or needing something, it has appeared in my life in record speed. I am not the only one experiencing this.
Generally, it is all good stuff.
But manifestation can go two ways, both good and bad.
If we keep our mind and focus ‘clean and positive’ we can draw in more of that.
If, however, we allow our focus to be taken into darker realms of fear or anger, which is being actively encouraged by our governments and media, we will start manifesting more things to match this energetic frequency.
It would appear that the dark rulers of the world are purposely keeping our minds engaged with fear, anger and unhappiness, so that we continue to keep the world in a ‘dark place’ through the law of attraction LOA. (When I say it would appear to be that way, it could also be being orchestrated by the light.)
HOW THE LOA WORKS
I know many people dismiss the law of attraction (LOA) as airy-fairy nonsense. Which I totally understand (that’s why I wrote a book on the subject for Empaths).
Many people have tried working the law of attraction, by keeping their mind in a positive space and doing daily affirmations or meditations, but it didn’t make any difference to their lives. So, it is easy to understand why someone would write it off as gobbledygook.
But the fact is, we attract back into our lives experiences that match our energetic vibration. All of which is impacted by so much more than just our thoughts.
Our energetic vibration is affected by our history, by our diet and lifestyles, by the people we surround ourselves with, by our ingrained beliefs and where we keep our focus from moment to moment, day to day. (Why do you think so many narcissistic people attract such abundance in their life? They truly believe in their own sovereignty and importance. They vibrate at a frequency that attracts a life of abundance.)
So, although we are in times where we have the opportunity to create a new positive life, if our minds are kept focused on doom and gloom, we stay stuck on the shadowy treadmill of fear and frustration. Going nowhere fast.
We are now in new times where the old ways of being are crumbling away. This is the dawning of a new age. And we must adapt and change.
But because we are trapped by a system that controls our feelings, beliefs and opinions, it is difficult to shape life into anything we want.
The system’s programmes have been designed to become so embedded into our psyche that we struggle to switch them off. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be switched off.
THE GOOD NEWS
Now, although I have painted a dark picture here, there is the brightest light shining at the end of the tunnel.
One thing we all need to ask ourselves is: Why would anyone work so hard to trap us in fear, anger and confusion if not for a reason?
Could it be the dark rulers are trying to keep us from finding our own divine light and inner power, by keeping us distracted and in fear?
Or is it some higher power trying to make life so uncomfortable for us that it awakens us to our true potential, divine power and sovereignty?
It is a subject that is certainly debatable. I choose to believe it is a bit of both.
But, whatever the reason and whomever is orchestrating these chaotic times, it is time to stop the insanity or complying with things that insult our soul.
What is the solution?
UNPLUG FROM THE SYSTEM
Basically, the more of us who can unplug from the system of control, the more we will see the light.
The more of us who can shift our vibration and focus, the more we can change the frequency of the world around us.
Working to stay in the moment will really help you now.
Just think of how the law of attraction works and use that principle. This post has more information.
There is no point trying to save the old world. That is finished. Over. This is about new beginnings.
Now, although there will still be ups and downs, during these challenging times, the more ‘unplugged’ we stay, and the more we work to keep our minds from the orchestrated distractions, the better we will fare and the more we will understand what it is we are supposed to be doing.
We have to remember our own power. We are not some helpless little organisms, incapable of mastering our feelings and thoughts. We are EMPATHS, and we have been in training for these times all our lives.
In my next post, which hopefully I will have out within the week, I will be sharing what has helped me in recent times and they are things that can help you too.
Being that we are in times of struggle, upheaval and transitions, I thought it would be good to address how internal conflict can drain our power and stop us from living a healthy, happy life.
Everyone experiences inner conflict at some point. Upheavals and mental struggles are all part of the ‘journey of life.’ For some, however, internal conflict is a reoccurring theme that never goes away, or has certainly become worse during these ‘dark days.’
Now, when I say conflict, I am not referring to the type that leads people into constant arguments or fights, although these are certainly still an issue. I am talking about the conflicts within the mind, that have been triggered either by the actions, words or energy of other people, or by media sources and governments.
I have written many posts on ways for Empaths to protect themselves from the energy of others, here are just a few: here, here and here. But for the purpose of this article, I would like to focus on the result of inner conflict that is happening now for many, and discuss how it could be controlling your mind, consuming your power and stopping you from ‘moving forward.’
How You Might See This
Everyone is being impacted in different ways by the current turbulent times. But some common themes are frustration and powerlessness at changes happening in the world, feelings of rage over injustices, and there is also a lot of shaming and blaming going on.
As an Empath, there are many ways you could be experiencing the knock-on effect of a shifting world in turmoil. But one such way is by certain people pushing your buttons in big ways.
For example, you may feel victimised or bullied by certain people, you may feel they don’t understand you or perhaps it seems they are always trying to undermine your beliefs or feelings. You may get frustrated that others can’t or won’t get on board with your way of thinking, you may lay awake at night pondering on what someone said or perhaps the way they said it.
Let’s face it, part of being an Empath has been to overcome or understand the destructive thoughts and pained emotions we have endured throughout life from being a Sensitive soul. We are highly reactive people, which means things affect us in much bigger ways than most.
It is an inherent trait of an Empath to be empathetic and understanding. But during these current times it is getting harder to do. As the darkness is being revealed in the world, it can be exasperating to be aware of it whilst so many others are oblivious. This in itself is ungrounding and cuts us off from our instinctive traits and thus our true power.
When we have an inner conflict, caused by another’s opinions, words or actions, whether that be people or governments, we are allowing them to hold power over us. They are, inadvertently, controlling our lives and how we feel. Thus, when we are in this situation, we get stuck in ‘no man’s land.’ And this is no longer the way to live!
It is time for that to change.
Time to Release
As I’m sure many of you are aware, we are in unique times of release and healing. Which also means letting go of, or making peace with, that which held our mind hostage and in conflict.
However, as we keep getting distracted by all the dark goings on in the world, we get trapped in old ways of being, thinking and feeling. Unable to move forward into the new.
Where to Start?
When it comes to release, realising what or who is impacting you, or causing inner conflict, is a good place to start.
If certain people are triggering you, friends or family perhaps, we have to question ourselves as to why we are reacting.
One of the first questions we can ask is: what is it, in the trigger’s personality, words or ways, that is acting as a conflict spark?
A lot of the time we don’t ask ourselves this question because we get so wrapped up in either their words, what was meant by them and why they said them, or why they are refusing to see things from our perspective, that we don’t look for the root of the issue.
Instead, it is so much more beneficial if we determine what button they are pressing within and why.
Many of you might have seen for yourself, in recent times, that fast manifestation is currently a big theme (Thinking of needing something and it arrives very soon after. A post for another time). So, when looking for answers now, they come quickly.
Once you understand what has been pressing your buttons, let it go. We don’t need to overanalyse, because that was part of the old way of living. It doesn’t need to come with us into the new.
Now, more than ever, it seems so important to be letting go, or taking our attention away from anything that brings us down and breaks our power. Which takes us to the most destructive force of self-power removal: The media…
External Sources
Another issue that I keep coming back to on this blog is how the media impacts the Empath.
If you are reacting or being triggered, negatively, by any online media sources, the simple answer is to switch off and stay away from them (sometimes even positive sites can trigger us in ways that is distracting and destructive.) I say simple, but it doesn’t mean it’s easy.
In its addictive nature, we don’t always know how attached we are to online media, or how it draws us in without us realising.
But know that switching off from the media sites, that create inner conflict or malaise of the liberated mind, is so unshackling. Besides, not always knowing what is going on in the outside world is a good thing. We are at a point where staying in control of our own world is so much more important.
Speaking from experience, ignorance really can be bliss.
That said, it is amazing how much you do get to know even without being switched on to the news and online media.
There is such a thing as having too much information. If you cannot do anything to change it, then why do you need to know about it?
Changing yourself and being in control of how you feel will impact the world in a more positive and productive way.
Remember: What we do to help ourselves now, in terms of self-healing, will in turn help the rest of humanity in a big way…
Mind Control
I have also spoken much about the power of meditating, or quieting the mind, for Empaths. Because it is so beneficial, I keep coming back to it.
Not only does being in a quiet or meditative state, help switch off the mind from the external, it is also revealing and liberating. Revealing in that you get to see/feel/hear insights that would have previously been hidden by the noise of fear and frustration in our world, and liberating in that it helps free our mind from the system that is currently crumbling all around us.
Because many Empath’s minds have been held hostage, by all that they have been feeling in recent months or years, meditation might be the last thing they want to do. But now, it can have more impact than ever.
If you are one Empath who would rather chop off your toes than sit in meditation, do not worry. There are many different techniques to get us into a meditative state, or higher mind, that don’t require the Buddha stance. See the following articles, here,here, and here.
Facing Your Truth
As an Empath you have a natural inner-drive to face your truth, which throughout your life has become louder and louder. But currently, we are being called towards freedom of the body, mind and spirit in a big way. In other words, now is time to take back your power.
You are a beautiful free being who’s about to embark on a whole new episode of life. The pain, the conflict and anything else that has been keeping you hostage and trapped in your mind is ready to be released.
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